Couples Should Not Live Together Before Marriage Essay

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Some people believe that couples shouldn’t live together before marriage. Solving the couple’s problems and getting to know each other before marriage is a better idea than waiting until after they say I do. The reason people get divorced is because they don’t try as hard as they need to; working for their relationship is the only way to save it. People say that one out of two marriages end in divorce, this is because couples decide to get married at young ages, and they don’t spend the time to really get to know each other. All couples should be advised to live together before they get married. As a couple living together they can learn to grow with each other, learn the good and bad about one another.
Living together is convenient. If both partners are not ready yet for marriage but want a steady
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People think that living together puts couples at a high risk later on, but turns out that is not the care at all (Taryn Hillin). Kurerberg says marring at a young age increase the likelihood of divorce; once you add age into the picture the correlation between divorce and cohabitation disappears. This is because the younger the couple decides to get married the more unexperienced they are. Getting to know each other longer will help relationships. There are couples today that decide to say ‘I do” when they’ve only known each other for 6 months. Couples who begin living together without being married tend to be younger than those who move in after the wedding, that’s why cohabitation seemed to lead to divorce(Robinson, Akirah.). There are some people who are against couples living together before marriage. Those living together before marriage have more frequent disagreements, more fights and violence. Husbands and wives who had lived together before marriage were more verbally aggressive, less supportive of one another and generally more hostile than spouses who had not lived together(DiDonato, Theresa

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