“Tough Love” Since we were born there was always one person we relied on which would be our mothers, if we were fortunate to have her, because moms are our care takers till we are able to do things on our own as they guide us through the process, once we are on our own mothers are always there to demonstrate the correct way no matter your age. Sometimes mothers are so pushy with small details because they want the best out of us and know we can achieve so much. In the story “Girl” (Kincaid pg. 184-185) the author Jamaica Kincaid is portrayed as the narrator/mother in the story and I believe she wanted the best for her daughter even though she was a bit harsh, vulgar, and judgmental. All these characteristics are used to parent her daughter
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She is quite consistent in explaining the detail of directions but I see this as her being a strict parent in order to have her daughter do things well. While giving her tips/commands she slips in asking her daughter, “is it true you sing benna in Sunday school?”, this seems as if her mother has someone watching her while she isn’t in her sight just to make sure she is on her best behavior. In my mind this Caribbean folk-music style (benna) maybe is frowned upon so she wants to make sure her daughter is not singing in Sunday school, and has someone watching her just to make sure. When she repeats herself on the topic just three sentences later I believe she is being assertive and being sure to get her point across that she doesn’t want her to do certain actions, even when she is not there to …show more content…
As she ranted off about what to do I realized it was a lot of women tasks so I see it as her mother wanting her to have a good social status as women so she doesn’t end up single. Kincaid was a single woman when this story was published and her experience might have influenced the story’s perspective and contributed to wanting her daughter to be the greatest. What she said that struck me to realize she was giving tips/directions on how to become a woman with high social status would be when she mentions, “don’t squat down to play marbles- you are not a boy, you know”, she is sure to cover many topics from cleaning, fixing things, and acting in a correct manner she clearly cares about her daughter’s whole future (Kincaid 185). This is even more clear when she says, “this is how to bully a man; this is how a man bullies you”, letting her know exactly what it is when a man is treating you the way he shouldn’t so she can back away when she needs and if she needs to protect herself from a man how to do so (Kincaid 185). She doesn’t want to see her daughter end up alone, because of her experience being single. Kincaid makes sure to let her know the right way to love, “this is how to love a man, and if this doesn’t work there are other ways, and if they don’t
She is quite consistent in explaining the detail of directions but I see this as her being a strict parent in order to have her daughter do things well. While giving her tips/commands she slips in asking her daughter, “is it true you sing benna in Sunday school?”, this seems as if her mother has someone watching her while she isn’t in her sight just to make sure she is on her best behavior. In my mind this Caribbean folk-music style (benna) maybe is frowned upon so she wants to make sure her daughter is not singing in Sunday school, and has someone watching her just to make sure. When she repeats herself on the topic just three sentences later I believe she is being assertive and being sure to get her point across that she doesn’t want her to do certain actions, even when she is not there to …show more content…
As she ranted off about what to do I realized it was a lot of women tasks so I see it as her mother wanting her to have a good social status as women so she doesn’t end up single. Kincaid was a single woman when this story was published and her experience might have influenced the story’s perspective and contributed to wanting her daughter to be the greatest. What she said that struck me to realize she was giving tips/directions on how to become a woman with high social status would be when she mentions, “don’t squat down to play marbles- you are not a boy, you know”, she is sure to cover many topics from cleaning, fixing things, and acting in a correct manner she clearly cares about her daughter’s whole future (Kincaid 185). This is even more clear when she says, “this is how to bully a man; this is how a man bullies you”, letting her know exactly what it is when a man is treating you the way he shouldn’t so she can back away when she needs and if she needs to protect herself from a man how to do so (Kincaid 185). She doesn’t want to see her daughter end up alone, because of her experience being single. Kincaid makes sure to let her know the right way to love, “this is how to love a man, and if this doesn’t work there are other ways, and if they don’t