Throughout history men have deemed themselves the master sex. They take the power and responsibility from women. In a patriarchal society this is true through every aspect of men’s lives including their marriages. Men make the decisions for their wives and daughters and control many aspects of their women’s lives. Over time these so called “rules” created by men have become standards in society’s eyes. Through the strict construct of a patriarchal society love is overshadowed by a man’s desire for power, sex, and control. American Sign Language is a language used to express ideas, needs, and thoughts through movement and emotion. In ASL there are three signs for love, because there are three separate meanings for one word. The first in a casual
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In both works of literature the husbands use gender as leverage for control over their wives. The husbands of both novels create households where the women have no rights and must do as their husbands say. This mindset weakens a women’s moral and breaks her as a person till she is nothing but a hollow person living in fear and regret. The men use this brain washing to take control of their wives and see them as objects instead of the love of their lives. In A Doll’s House Torvald is infatuated with Nora when their “love” must appear to be a secret. “NORA Go away, Torvald! Please leave me alone. I won’t have it. | HELMER What’s this? It’s just your little game isn’t it, my little Nora. Won’t! Won’t! Am I not your husband” (Ibsen 70). He uses Nora as an object he can use in his perverted fantasies even though Nora does not consent. He takes her no and turns it into a yes to get his way. In The Collector of Treasures Garesego moves from women to women not returning home unless he wants to have sex with his wife. Dikeledi receives a note from Garesego. Upon reading it she “[shakes] with rage. All [the notes] overtones were clear to her. He was coming home for some sex. They had no differences. They had not even talked to each other” (Head 101). Garesego does not ask what Dikeledi wants he just thinks of himself and she does not consent. In both works of literature each of the women’s husbands use their power to rape their wives. Through the act of marital rape neither party can feel love; the man is more concerned with his needs and desire than what his wife wants. If a man truly loved his wife he would respect her wants and when she says no not take it as a yes. Unfortunately in a patriarchal marriage the man does have this control over his wife and can abuse his power; through the abuse of his power he is
In both works of literature the husbands use gender as leverage for control over their wives. The husbands of both novels create households where the women have no rights and must do as their husbands say. This mindset weakens a women’s moral and breaks her as a person till she is nothing but a hollow person living in fear and regret. The men use this brain washing to take control of their wives and see them as objects instead of the love of their lives. In A Doll’s House Torvald is infatuated with Nora when their “love” must appear to be a secret. “NORA Go away, Torvald! Please leave me alone. I won’t have it. | HELMER What’s this? It’s just your little game isn’t it, my little Nora. Won’t! Won’t! Am I not your husband” (Ibsen 70). He uses Nora as an object he can use in his perverted fantasies even though Nora does not consent. He takes her no and turns it into a yes to get his way. In The Collector of Treasures Garesego moves from women to women not returning home unless he wants to have sex with his wife. Dikeledi receives a note from Garesego. Upon reading it she “[shakes] with rage. All [the notes] overtones were clear to her. He was coming home for some sex. They had no differences. They had not even talked to each other” (Head 101). Garesego does not ask what Dikeledi wants he just thinks of himself and she does not consent. In both works of literature each of the women’s husbands use their power to rape their wives. Through the act of marital rape neither party can feel love; the man is more concerned with his needs and desire than what his wife wants. If a man truly loved his wife he would respect her wants and when she says no not take it as a yes. Unfortunately in a patriarchal marriage the man does have this control over his wife and can abuse his power; through the abuse of his power he is