Affair-Proof Marriages
Affair-proofing a marriage cannot be done if couples hide their heads in the sand. Some spouses believe that their spouse is the exception or “different”, and would never take part in an affair despite unmet needs may receive a devastating shock one day (Harley, 2011, p. 20). The reality is that no marriage is beyond penetration (Shriver & Shriver, 2009, p. 101). According to Gary and Mona Shriver (2009), “The self-assurance that this is one area we could never fall into is a lie for every couple who believe it. Godly people sin. Godly people fall. Good marriages have problems (p. 101).” 1 Corinthians 10:12 states, “Therefore let anyone who thinks that he stands take heed lest he fall (ESV).” It is important for all married …show more content…
201-203, 2009) Anderson uses the acronym HEDGES to help couples understand how they can protect their marriages from external invaders and internal discontent. The acronym stands for hearing, encouraging, dating, guarding, educating, and satisfying (Anderson, 2004, p. 47). When planting a garden, one of the most important things to consider is the condition of the soil (Anderson, 2004, p. 47). Anderson (2004) states, “Assuming that Christ is the soil of your marriage, all the hedges, in order to grow to maturity, must be planted in Him (p.47).” Couples must understand that their hedges will grow, change, and fill in as their marriage takes shape. Once couples plant hedges in their marriage, they must have a reservoir of water to draw from (Anderson, 2004, p. 48). Marriages that are well watered have deep roots which allow couples to withstand the storms of life. Marriages that are in drought, however, have weak and shallow roots. When the storms of life come they will damage and eventually destroy the marriages in drought (Anderson, 2004, p.
Affair-proofing a marriage cannot be done if couples hide their heads in the sand. Some spouses believe that their spouse is the exception or “different”, and would never take part in an affair despite unmet needs may receive a devastating shock one day (Harley, 2011, p. 20). The reality is that no marriage is beyond penetration (Shriver & Shriver, 2009, p. 101). According to Gary and Mona Shriver (2009), “The self-assurance that this is one area we could never fall into is a lie for every couple who believe it. Godly people sin. Godly people fall. Good marriages have problems (p. 101).” 1 Corinthians 10:12 states, “Therefore let anyone who thinks that he stands take heed lest he fall (ESV).” It is important for all married …show more content…
201-203, 2009) Anderson uses the acronym HEDGES to help couples understand how they can protect their marriages from external invaders and internal discontent. The acronym stands for hearing, encouraging, dating, guarding, educating, and satisfying (Anderson, 2004, p. 47). When planting a garden, one of the most important things to consider is the condition of the soil (Anderson, 2004, p. 47). Anderson (2004) states, “Assuming that Christ is the soil of your marriage, all the hedges, in order to grow to maturity, must be planted in Him (p.47).” Couples must understand that their hedges will grow, change, and fill in as their marriage takes shape. Once couples plant hedges in their marriage, they must have a reservoir of water to draw from (Anderson, 2004, p. 48). Marriages that are well watered have deep roots which allow couples to withstand the storms of life. Marriages that are in drought, however, have weak and shallow roots. When the storms of life come they will damage and eventually destroy the marriages in drought (Anderson, 2004, p.