What Is Remy's Abandonment?
In a similar way to her father, Remy’s mother plays a role …show more content…
Remy notices this distance between her and her mother when Remy and her newest stepfather, Don, get into a fight after her parents are locked out of the house. After the fight, her mother goes to soothe Don rather than making sure her daughter is okay. It strikes Remy suddenly that “… the distance between us was much greater than what I could see from where I was standing. Like that line, always so clear to me, had somehow shifted, or never even been where I’d thought it was at all” (246). Remy had never noticed there was a distance between her and her mother until her fight with Don. It established the fact that even though her marriages have never been successful, Remy’s mother chooses her husbands over her own daughter.
Her mother’s five, unsuccessful marriages taught Remy that love does not exist and she has commitment issues because she was never shown a lasting relationship. This belief that love does not exist or last causes Remy to have a negative and cynical belief in relationships. This is why her boyfriends have “expiration dates”; Remy goes into a relationship knowing she will give “The Speech” to slow down the relationship, then sleeps with them, and then reasons with herself that it’s time to end it (135). She does not know how to be in a long term, committed relationship because of her mother’s failed