Amy's Short Story

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My initial thoughts after watching the short video of the real life account and examination of Amy’s story reminded how many women fall victims each year to the cycle of abuse and violence at the hands from the people who suppose to love and care about them. The story did not impress me at all. This story was another tragic event for Amy and her family in America’s society. As I listened to Amy’s story, I could see the danger indicators for the cycle of abuse against Amy by her husband Vincent McGee. The one thing that always stands out the most to me is how the victims realize the abusive situation they are in, but they continue to stay in the abusive relationship until it’s usually to late to do anything about it like Amy’s story. These …show more content…
(Tom Gibb, Post-Gazette) In my professional experience in law enforcement with situations like Amy has high probability of ending in tragic instead of living happily ever after like in the movies. This happily ever after story is not realistic in society, but you can count on three things. One, the abuser will eventually stop their abuse, but not likely without serious professional intervention and help. The victim will realize and leave the situation, but more than likely this event will ever happen because of their emotional bond they have with the abuser. Then the third situation and most realistic is someone is going to die. As you probably figured out already, I have some professional background experience with dealing with domestic violence situations. Allot of people think Amy’s story is applicable to women only. Let me tell you, it happens to men as well from their female spouse as well. I had a good friend that I played on the base installation softball team. We’ll, one day my friend showed up for practice and I noticed he had two black eyes and looking like a raccoon. As team mates, we like to poke fun with each other and I was teasing him and I noticed it really bothered him. So, I went over to him and started asking him some questions and finally he opened up to me and told me what happened to …show more content…
The child have been exposed to family violence in childhood are more than likely to abuse their own children. In addition, then amount of stress is another correlation with family and domestic violence. The use of drugs and alcohol are ways the abuser rationalize and excuse that enhances the actions of the abuser to cope with the stresses from past events, standards of living, economics, and poverty. (P. 312-313; Lamanna, Riedmann and

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