In the United States, marriage is too often taken for granted. It gets rushed and occurs under false pretenses, which causes people to divorce frequently. According to the article “Analyzing divorce from cultural and network approaches”, the divorce rates in America is “…anywhere from 40 to 50 percent of Americans will experience divorce in their lifetime…” (240).The collateral damage from these divorces is increased when there are children involved. Without a care of their opinions, their worlds gets turned upside down, no matter what age, with just two signatures on a piece of paper. They are left confused, depressed, and angry from an issue they cannot control. It can even leave them to feel guilty and blame themselves for the divorce. This
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There are numerous occurrences where children have lashed out in anger, shut the world out, or just been depressed to the point where they do not want to do anything. The children can get so emotionally thrown off by divorce it can completely change who they are as a person. As said by the article “Top 10 Major effects of Divorce on Children”, “…Children become emotionally sensitive. Such a situation moulds their mind in a way that even smallest of issues affect them to a great extent. They seem to fear abandonment” (Nain). Issues that may not have even been thought about could now be magnified to them, because of the emotional roller coaster the child could be on. For example, a kid that makes A’s and B’s could bring home a C on day and it may not affect the child as much. If the kid is emotionally in distress at all, it could cause him to the think he is a failure, and that he cannot do anything correct. Behavior can be affected by divorce …show more content…
Not exactly physically, but mentally and emotionally torn between two parents. In many cases when divorces occur, the parents obtain joint custody where one parent has them for a certain time (usually weekends) and vice versa. Stated in the article “Commuting between two parental households: The association between joint physical custody and adolescent wellbeing following divorce”, it says “Opponents of joint physical custody warn that it creates feelings of instability from the constant moving from one house to another (Bauserman, 2002; Goldstein, Freud, & Solnit, 1973; Kuehl, 1993; Spruijt & Duindam, 2009)” (141). Things can be said from both parents that will make the children think differently about the other parent. This is the last thing that should be happening to a child. Why should this 5, 12, or even 18 year old kid have to choose between their mom and dad? They are both responsible for giving life to them, and the children should not have to go without either parent. I know this does not happen all the time, and I know that there are parents that have good relationships with their opposite co-parent after divorce, but there are many cases than makes the children feel trapped in the middle of the two parent’s toxic relationship. One way that children usually get caught is through communication between parents. Stated in “Keeping Kids out of the Middle”, “Do not make the
There are numerous occurrences where children have lashed out in anger, shut the world out, or just been depressed to the point where they do not want to do anything. The children can get so emotionally thrown off by divorce it can completely change who they are as a person. As said by the article “Top 10 Major effects of Divorce on Children”, “…Children become emotionally sensitive. Such a situation moulds their mind in a way that even smallest of issues affect them to a great extent. They seem to fear abandonment” (Nain). Issues that may not have even been thought about could now be magnified to them, because of the emotional roller coaster the child could be on. For example, a kid that makes A’s and B’s could bring home a C on day and it may not affect the child as much. If the kid is emotionally in distress at all, it could cause him to the think he is a failure, and that he cannot do anything correct. Behavior can be affected by divorce …show more content…
Not exactly physically, but mentally and emotionally torn between two parents. In many cases when divorces occur, the parents obtain joint custody where one parent has them for a certain time (usually weekends) and vice versa. Stated in the article “Commuting between two parental households: The association between joint physical custody and adolescent wellbeing following divorce”, it says “Opponents of joint physical custody warn that it creates feelings of instability from the constant moving from one house to another (Bauserman, 2002; Goldstein, Freud, & Solnit, 1973; Kuehl, 1993; Spruijt & Duindam, 2009)” (141). Things can be said from both parents that will make the children think differently about the other parent. This is the last thing that should be happening to a child. Why should this 5, 12, or even 18 year old kid have to choose between their mom and dad? They are both responsible for giving life to them, and the children should not have to go without either parent. I know this does not happen all the time, and I know that there are parents that have good relationships with their opposite co-parent after divorce, but there are many cases than makes the children feel trapped in the middle of the two parent’s toxic relationship. One way that children usually get caught is through communication between parents. Stated in “Keeping Kids out of the Middle”, “Do not make the