The Psychological Effects Of Divorce On Children

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Divorce: the termination of a marital union, the canceling and/or reorganizing of the legal duties and responsibilities of marriage, thus dissolving the bonds of matrimony between a married couple under the rule of law of the particular country and/or state. A simple, extremely overused action that carries the power to cripple lives of everyone involved. Statistics show that there are one hundred divorces per hour in the United States. The truth is, almost every person in the world today has been affected by divorce in some way. Whether it was directly, a child of divorce, grandparent divorce, or watching a friend go through divorce. Over the past thirty years divorce rates in the United States have steadily inclined, leaving behind silent …show more content…
Among the most common are psychological issues and personality changes. The two go hand in hand because psychological issues usually result in a personality change within the child. An interview was conducted with Vicki Panaccione ("Dr. Vicki") who is also known as the parenting professor. She was asked a series of questions one of which included the topics of emotional difficulties children face when parents divorce. She believes that the primary impact that divorce has on children psychologically is their sense of security and stability. Children are highly affected because they are frightened and become very insecure. She believes that along with the previously stated issues, children also feel an overwhelming sense of hopelessness and helplessness. They often experience a roller coaster of emotions, including anger, fear, confusion and guilt. Along with the emotions previously listed, feelings of abandonment and betrayal can also be felt by the child (Panaccione). Children are confused and become psychologically distressed, resulting in changes in their personality. For example, a child who feels a loss of security and stability could become very inverted and paranoid of all relationships with the worry that they could abruptly end as well. Children who were always very outgoing and lively could become very quiet and shy, just as a child who was …show more content…
No two person is alike, and although generally the same affects of divorce are seen in most children, different age groups have their own way of coping. How children respond to divorce depends largely on what age that they are. The three main age groups that have been studied are preschool aged children (ages one to five), school aged children (ages six to twelve), and teenagers (ages thirteen to eighteen). Put simply, divorce tends to intensify a young child 's dependence and tends to accelerate the adolescent 's independence. It is stated that a more regressive response is seen in a child and a more aggressive response in the adolescent (Pickhardt). For any child involved in a parents divorce it disturbs the trust and dependency on parents who now behave in an undependable way. Children coping with a parental divorce all act out in their own way to gain attention from the parents. Children ages one to five may become very clingy, throw various tantrums, refuse to do things asked of them, and become resistant to other caretakers such as a preschool teacher or babysitter. Psychologists say this may be a result of these children trying to get attention wherever they can from whoever they

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