The Effects Of Masculinity In Society

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In today’s world, it seems that one can see many examples of misogyny, violence, and sexism anywhere she goes. Masculinity was once something that people did not pay much mind to, but it has now become something extremely fragile. To question a man’s masculinity is probably his worst nightmare. Nowadays, that sense of manliness unfortunately causes men to put women or other men down. Works such as Jean Kilbourne’s “Two Ways a Woman Can Get Hurt’: Advertising and Violence” show readers how gender norms and ideas about manliness can have a damaging and dangerous effect on women. Michael Kimmel’s, “Bros Before Ho’s: The Guy Code,” depicts the ideas and sensitivities of masculinity and how these “Guy Code” rules contribute to the violent misogynistic …show more content…
The common phrase a young boy is told is to “Be a man.” Kimmel claims that the pressure on men to be manly all the time has had a damaging effect on how they view themselves and other people. In Kimmel’s essay he asks random men what they think it means to be a man, and most respond with, “…never show your feelings, never ask for directions, never give up, never give in, be strong, be aggressive, show no mercy, get rich, get even, get laid, win…” (540). These kinds of responses truly show the warped ideas men have about their masculinity. Therefore, some men believe that being distant and aloof towards women is attractive and manly. That perception causes a domino effect that eventually falls on the women who desire these kinds of men. Somehow, men who act distant, cool, and uncaring attract other women and then these girls treated as if they do not mean anything. This eventually gives guys the wrong idea about how they should attract women, and as a result, these girls get used to this behavior and expect to be treated poorly by these …show more content…
There have been countless cases of women suffering through domestic violence by their husbands or boyfriends because these men believe they need to physically dominate their partner in order to feel like a man. Early ideas about masculinity generally revolved around the stigma of being superior to one’s girlfriend, wife, or significant lover. It was once believed that physically dominating one’s woman was a sign of masculinity and power, and even today, some people still believe this. In “Two Ways a Woman Could Get Hurt: Advertising and Violence,” Kilbourne includes numerous ads that degrade women by displaying a man who physically dominates the woman in a violent way. These advertisements send men the message that being violent towards a woman is sexy and alluring. Kilbourne states the reason for producing ads like this is that, “The main goal, as in pornography, is usually power over another, either by the physical dominance or preferred status of men or what is seen as the exploitive power of female beauty and female sexuality,” (489). These violent ads are examples of how men have been given false ideas about what masculinity means, and how these false ideas are dangerous to

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