Letter Seeking Advice

Thank you for writing to my advice column, from reading your letter, I can tell that this is an issue that keeps you up at night and I am glad you wrote to my column seeking advice. The relationship they say is no walk in the park and if you have been married to your wife for fifteen years then I cam say with all certainty that you have been through the highs and lows of your marriage, therefore, making you the sexpert in your relationship. Going straight to the point, I would say, it is not unusual for married couples to lose the intensity in their sexual relationship or the frequency. You have to take into consideration that after fifteen years of marriage with children’s, jobs, added obligations and lets not forget the age impact in the …show more content…
You have to understand that there are two sides to the coin and in this case, there is the emotional definition of sex and the physical definition and in your situation, they are both intertwined. For the quality or expectation of sex not to be up to par, then it, means that there is either a problem with the physical aspects of the sex or the emotional aspects of it and once I define them it can help with figuring out where the issue is arising from and coming up with a solution. When it comes to the different definition or expectation of sex, emotional sex is often regarded as lovemaking in pop culture and physical sex is often known or used when steams are needed to be blown off and it is often regarded in a more appropriate term as sex. When looking back at your letter, you said sex and not love making so it is only fair to assume that the heat you are lacking in your bedroom is the physical part of sex, which in turns would suggest that the physical aspect that maybe includes the intensity and energy are lacking and in order to figure out a solution, we have to look into your …show more content…
In your letter, you did not give me an exact problem why your sex is no longer steamy but if I have to make an assumption, then I would have to say that sex is no longer steamy because either the frequency in which you and your wife have sex has either reduced or the physical energy is not at where you want it to be. If the reason is either of this two, then the problem is that she isn’t meeting your expectations and when trying to talk to your wife about her not meeting expectations, you have to realize that you had to communicate with her that 's the only way she could have known if she was meeting expectations or