I was sitting in my fourth block study hall class one day, when the group of freshman next me started talking about their weekend plans. One boy nudged his friend and said, “Dude, when you gonna tap that,” referencing the freshman girl sitting right beside them. “Soon bro, soon,” he replied with a smug grin on his face. This little interaction, though it was brief, had me thinking two things. First, How did the girl not hear the two boy’s conversation because they were not whispering? And Second, What does tapping a girl on the shoulder have anything to do with being cool in high school? If you don’t know, the phrase tap that, bro I’m gonna tap that, has become slang for sexual acts and has an overall sexual meaning. The reason so many people
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For instance, only 43% of boys and 42% of girls have actually had sex. Although this isn’t a strong majority, this statistic from Stayteen.org says that over half of people that leave high school are virgins. In the light of this virgin majority, why does our culture make talking about virginity so difficult? As an avid console gamer, there are so many occasions when I go into Call of Duty lobbies and hear an older guy call another boy a virgin. This is an example of the animosity for being a virgin. We refuse to talk about it, unless it is calling someone else a virgin in a derogatory manner. The word ‘virgin’ in society speak, means loser. And this is not …show more content…
First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes a baby in a baby carriage. But where do we factor in sex for the first time? Brigham Young University studied 2,035 people who were married, and asked them the question, “When did you become sexual in this relationship?" The individuals reported that the longer into the relationship they waited to have sex, the stronger their marriage was. Those who waited the longest, until marriage, reaped the best benefits. 448 people had higher relationship stability and 407 a higher relationship satisfaction. This 22 and 20% of people that waited until marriage to have sex, had a better and more promising marriage. And it might have come from the sex these people had on that night. Those who waited to have sex until marriage even reported having better sex than those who did IT earlier. 15% of people reported better sex, and 12% said they had better communication. When asked why this study produced these results, Dean Busby said, “I think it's because they've learned to talk and have the skills to work with issues that come up." Now if waiting until marriage isn’t your plan, those who waited until longer into the relationship, and not until the wedding night, can have about half of the benefits. So still 8% better
For instance, only 43% of boys and 42% of girls have actually had sex. Although this isn’t a strong majority, this statistic from Stayteen.org says that over half of people that leave high school are virgins. In the light of this virgin majority, why does our culture make talking about virginity so difficult? As an avid console gamer, there are so many occasions when I go into Call of Duty lobbies and hear an older guy call another boy a virgin. This is an example of the animosity for being a virgin. We refuse to talk about it, unless it is calling someone else a virgin in a derogatory manner. The word ‘virgin’ in society speak, means loser. And this is not …show more content…
First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes a baby in a baby carriage. But where do we factor in sex for the first time? Brigham Young University studied 2,035 people who were married, and asked them the question, “When did you become sexual in this relationship?" The individuals reported that the longer into the relationship they waited to have sex, the stronger their marriage was. Those who waited the longest, until marriage, reaped the best benefits. 448 people had higher relationship stability and 407 a higher relationship satisfaction. This 22 and 20% of people that waited until marriage to have sex, had a better and more promising marriage. And it might have come from the sex these people had on that night. Those who waited to have sex until marriage even reported having better sex than those who did IT earlier. 15% of people reported better sex, and 12% said they had better communication. When asked why this study produced these results, Dean Busby said, “I think it's because they've learned to talk and have the skills to work with issues that come up." Now if waiting until marriage isn’t your plan, those who waited until longer into the relationship, and not until the wedding night, can have about half of the benefits. So still 8% better