Swingers Feelings Of Jealousy

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Visser and McDonald (2007) interviewed four heterosexual couples who were living together and were swinging for a minimum of a year. Research questions focused on swingers’ feelings of jealousy, whether these feelings could be channeled into something positive, and how these findings can add to the body of literature on romantic relationships in general. Swingers managed feelings of jealousy in different ways. For instance, Bob felt that jealousy is a natural impulse but people can decide whether to work through these feelings internally or act on them. Cate expressed that communication with one’s primary partner is imperative for working through jealousy. In general, couples were honest with each other, set boundaries, and prioritized their

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