Role Of My Family

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My family is remote, yet central to my life. We coalesce, and vanish, to and from each other’s lives. We have developed together, yet apart, and without copious restraint of each other’s opinions or views. We come together sometimes for family occasions, always with the expectation that some or none will show up. These family functions are merely an invitation, an invitation that family members attend arbitrarily. The host will not know who is attending until people start showing up the day the event occurs. Regardless, there is always enough food and room to accommodate the motley members whom might show up. It is an unspoken value (McGoldrick, 1995) to have enough provisions, just in case.
I am one of six female children in my family. My
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Being first born of both genders, they are paradigms of what might be expected from their birth order. McGoldrick (1995) states, “…oldest sons, who typically have a clear feeling of entitlement, oldest daughters often have feelings of ambivalence and guilt about their responsibilities.” (p.210). This entitlement on my father’s behalf can clearly be seen by the demonstration of his family to fully support him in his endeavors to move to the United States in order for him to pursue his career; leaving his sister in Hong Kong with little support from the family towards her education, having been given all to him. My father demonstrates the ambition, expectation and entitlement often seen by first-born males from his culture. My father seems to embody some historical as well as contemporary traits from his family. According to McGoldrick, Giordano, and Garcia-Preto. (2005) “Although older Chinese still embody some traditional beliefs, the younger generation has shown some rejection of conservatism and traditionalism” (p.306). My father seemed to integrate into American culture rather well, adopting and shedding traditions in order to assimilate (McGoldrick et al. 2005) into a new life and culture. He no longer spoke Chinese, and insists in large measure to speak only English. He also discarded many traditional beliefs, but keeps some ancient traditions, such as martial arts from his culture. According to McGoldrick et al. (2005), “In …show more content…
I did not know it at the time, but I was never to return to live there again. I also did not know that it would be the first move of many, to which there never seemed to be an end. Forming any long term, or meaningful relationships with peers after that move would prove to be difficult. Not because of the frequent moving, but also, in conjunction with my family life, which was difficult. My attachment style could aptly be described as insecure (Goldenberg and Goldenberg, 2013), undoubtedly inherited from by mother’s attachment style. Fonagy, Srteele, and Steele, (1991) remark, that a mother’s attachment style is strongly predictive of the outcome of the child’s attachment style (as cited in David,

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