I’ve obtained a lot of amazing friends as well as bad ones. Regardless of whether they were good or bad, I was always eager to have somebody I was able to call my friend. As a result, I formed unhealthy relationships with people just for their companionship. My most recent instance of this is a …show more content…
If she senses that she’s done something wrong, she pulls out her puppy eyes and cries for forgiveness. She uses her gorgeous appearance and sly compliments to get what she wants. Alice sees me as a threat to her boyfriend, my best friend of four years. As a result, she’s had the two of us promise not to be in the same area without her present. She’s split us up, but somehow we’re okay with it. I’m unsure if I want to carry on with our friendship because it’s just so emotionally draining. Being around her leaves a bitter taste in your mouth and makes your head hurt. But unfortunately, I always get dragged back into our friendship when she pleads with words such as: “You’re never going to leave me right? If you leave me, I’m not sure who I’d have left…”
Sometimes I even feel as if Alice’s behavior is justified. I have sympathy for her mental conditions and she makes me believe that I want our friendship as bad as she does. Alice convinces me that she needs me or that I’m one of her best friends. She tells me that she can’t help the way she acts and that I’m being inconsiderate towards her feelings. This all makes me believe that Alice is in need of my help and I’m just being a bad friend. Our friendship isn’t an option, rather it is a …show more content…
I can trust you, right?”
I also believe that Alice gives me a sense of importance, or maybe even a sense of responsibility. Her compliments always build me up and her dependency makes me fear what may happen if she had no friends. Sometimes I think about our friendship and feel like the only reason I remain is because I’m already in too deep and it’s too late to leave. Her well being is now my responsibility. It all just feels so confusing. I’m not sure if she’s manipulating me or her feelings about me and our friendship are genuine.
At a cafe, I discussed this issue with my old teacher who also knew Alice. He told me, “Dre, what you’re doing isn’t good for you or her. You’re letting her become dependent on you. You’re also putting responsibility and stress on yourself when these issues aren’t even yours in the first place. You need to learn to cut off the negative people in your life and let others handle their own