First, one theme of this book is that you can’t stop sad things from happening, but you can control how you feel about them. When Salamanca was living in Bybanks, Kentucky after her mother left, she was upset for a while, but learns that she can be happy without her mother. Although she sees her mother in everything she does, she manages to find how to deal with her mother being gone. Sal states, “And that night in bed, I did not cry. I said to myself, `Salamanca Tree Hiddle, you can be happy without her,`” (page 35). Sal tells herself that she can deal with being away from her mother, and she knows that she can be strong. She controls herself to keep the birds of sadness away. Even though this may not be the best of times, Sal still remembers to look at the bright side. Sal’s dad also shows that he can be happy on his own. Despite Chanhassen, his wife, dying in a bus accident, he manages to find happiness with Margaret Cadaver, who knew Chanhassen. Sal says, “My …show more content…
Sal didn’t realize how much she needed her mother until she left, which was the start of the plot, taking her on her journey to Lewiston. Phoebe also took all her mother did for granted, and she didn’t find the worth of water until the well had dried. Sal says, “I don’t know why I did that. I didn’t mean anything by it, but that was one of the last memories she had of me, and I wished I could take it back,” (page 97). She recognizes that she did something bad before her mother left, and she deeply regrets it. Back when she argued with her mother, Sal didn’t think much of that conversation. She didn’t feel like going on a walk, and snapped at her mother for it. However, when she left the next day, Sal realized how much she needed her mother, how she felt about her mother. Phoebe didn’t care much for what her mother did before she left, and didn’t like when her mother worried about her. She thought she could do everything on her own and that her mother didn’t have to do everything for her, or that her mother was doing things wrong. Sal says, “I hated her that day. I didn’t care how upset she was about her mother, I really hated her, and I wanted to leave. I wondered if this was how my father felt when I threw all those temper tantrums. Maybe he hated me for a while,” (page 155). Sal thinks about the way she was acting after her own mother left, and if Phoebe feels the same way, now that