Importance Of Unhealthy Boundaries

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Some individuals are not aware that they are overstepping their boundaries, take for instance a client that shows up to therapy expressing being burned out and angry. Of course, after listening to the client, gathering information, this writer being the counselor can indicate to the client that being burned out and angry are signs of unhealthy boundaries. This writer would affirm that anyone can display unhealthy boundaries at any given time. Buhari (2013), defined boundaries as “a dynamic line which if crossed, will constitute unprofessional or unethical behavior and misuse of power” (Buhari, 2013, p. 164). In this case, the client may have crossed their personal line, perhaps due to a lack of balance, being overly committed to something, …show more content…
unhealthy boundaries. A counselor in therapy carries many responsibilities, and one of those is to maintain healthy boundaries with clients. A simple gesture of overly self-disclosing or extending therapy session with a client to facilitate the session can be problematic, and signs of unhealthy boundaries. This process may lead for a therapy session to not be effective for the client. Therefore, the goal is for the counselor to display boundaries for the sake of establishing a therapeutic alliance that is professional and encourages growth. The counselor should “care about” and not “care for” the client (Buhari, 2013, p. 164). By thinking about the client in this manner, the counselor can maintain clear boundaries with the client. A counselor cares for their family, themselves, etc, therefore, they do not have to maintain as stringent boundaries with loved ones. In this respect, by caring about the client, the counselor does not possess the feelings of being obligated, feeling guilty over something, hurt, or harm the client. In this way, the counselor can nurture a relationship that is somewhat close, trusting, yet …show more content…
With the same token, although some therapeutic approaches may utilize, some aspects where boundaries are crossed, it should not be dismissed that the counselor is acting in a manner to help the client. Although, like everything else, anything in excess can be conflicting and problematic. As Buhari (2013), mentioned “being too formal with clients can contribute to professional distancing and being too familiar can also lead to boundary crossing and subsequently violation” (Buhari, 2013, p. 165). Therefore, the counselor has to do her or his best to maintain a good balance, that works for them and the clients, while also respecting boundaries. After all, the counselor is working with individuals that may be vulnerable and sensitive, and certain unhealthy boundaries can be detrimental to such

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