I Kissed Goodbye Analysis

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“The right thing at the wrong time is the wrong thing.”
― Joshua Harris, I Kissed Dating Goodbye: A New Attitude Toward Relationships and Romance
Dating is an interesting thing nowadays. People consider it a something all teenagers do for fun. The book I read this quarter, I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris, goes against this thinking and explains how we should approach dating as young men and women in Christ. He talks about dating as something that is not to be played with. It is a serious endeavor that should only really be embarked upon when getting married is actually on your mind. It is rather pointless outside of that. This book has revolutionized my views on dating, and has given me a guide that I hope will carry with me till
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His view on dating is, while considered by many to be obnoxious and unnecessary, I feel is very viable and makes a lot of sense. If you think about it, why would you be dating someone you know you could never marry? Dating supposed to be used to find a mate, and I like the way Harris really nails this point home. The energy you put into a relationship could be used to better yourself in other ways such as school, work, or doing God’s work. Relationships usually end in heartbreak at the end, so why not just completely avoid it? I also like the way he emphasizes how even just kissing or hugging a lot is something that should be saved for marriage. No one seems to share this view, and you’re criticized quite often for thinking the same. If only more people in the world shared Harris’s view on dating, because relationships would be much cleaner and free from …show more content…
Before I felt like dating isn’t all bad and that everyone is doing it, but then I saw how it affected my friend’s life. He could no longer participate and practice sports. He fell off the cliff and became less and less relevant in basketball. He never had time for anything because he always had to put his girlfriend first. This has scared me away from dating and I now try to avoid it. Harris’s point about how dating wastes energy that could be used toward school or sports backs up my fears completely. If I want to continue to get better at sports and excel at school, then dating has to take a back seat. The book also changed my views on a few things. Before, I never really saw a problem with kissing and things like that. I knew people like my parents considered it wrong and a bad thing, but I never really understood why. Now, I see what’s wrong with it. Even though you might not be having premarital sex, things like kissing fall under the same category. It’s selfish and really best left till marriage. God wants us to be as clean as possible before marriage, and things like that can stain it. The majority of the people we date will not end up being our life long partners, so it’s our duty to help them stay clean and stand clear of anything that might potentially stain them and hurt their future

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