Degroat Makes Difficult To Love Certain People

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DeGroat depicts that sometimes it makes difficult to love certain people because these people are complex and difficult. Some people have personality disorders, some people have addictions, and some are just fools. Also, our own selves make us difficult to love these people. (DeGroat, 12) We are living in a broken world and each of us has an invisible bag behind us. DeGroat argues that by understanding the complexity of people and ourselves, we, as leaders and care-givers, can start caring for ourselves so that we can then care for the others.
DeGroat is right that church leaders or ministers like all other parishioners or secular people, are also broken and have invisible baggage in their backs. For them to minister these complex, difficult,

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