Essay on Death and Dying

2680 Words Jan 14th, 2013 11 Pages
The Stages of Dying and of Losing a Loved One
Usually, a person (or their loved ones) will go through all or some of the following stages of feelings and emotions. The dying person’s stages can often be more predictable than the stages experienced by a loved one who has just suffered a loss.
1. Denial
• The dying person being able to drop denial gradually, and being able to use less radical defences, depends on:
- how he/she is told about his/her status;
- how much time he/she has to acknowledge what is happening;
- how he/she has been prepared throughout life to cope with stressful situations, particularly those that are out of their own control.
2. Anger
• Rage, anger, envy, and resentment may replace denial.
• “Why me?”
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Loved ones of terminally ill persons are not there to psychoanalyse; they are there to lend their undivided attention with love, compassion, understanding, and attentiveness. Just allow the dying person to be ‘himself/herself’ as you are yourself, rather than fitting him or her into little categories and analyzing that person. You can help by being available, listening, and helping in any way you can.

The Death Process as it Relates to the Past, Present, and Future
Most persons facing the knowledge of their own death must rapidly focus on many areas dealing with their past, their present, and their future. The past needs to be reconciled and concluded; the present must be fulfilled; and the future must be planned or, at least, probed. Dealing with the past, present, and future in a short time is usually very emotionally exhausting, sometimes painful and, hopefully, victorious at the end. But, in the process the dying person will experience emotions which fluctuate and may sometimes seem irrational. The dying person’s emotions are all packed into a short time and with so much to deal with. Therefore, the dying person is increasingly dependent upon family and loved ones as he/she is going through this process.
The loved ones will see displayed, and often feel themselves, interplay of discomfort, joy, fear, apprehension, pain, love, and anger, etc. To better understand, family

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