Co-Cultural And Social Intertextual Analysis

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After observing different men and women’s interactions I did notice some interesting similarities as well as differences. First I notice that men seem to mostly react and speak with little to no restraint. I observed this especially from one man. He often put down people around him especially women, but also used a condescending tone with males. Women responded by ignoring or being completely quite falling in to stereotypical patterns of women. Within our text “looking out looking in” touches base on politeness (pg.190) which is explained to be valued. I do find that it should be valued maybe just not by the man I observed, but by women as well. I think that just as the book mentions “a balance between effectiveness and appropriateness” …show more content…
Be sure to include concepts and terms explored in the class (i.e. high or low context language or eye contact). This portion should be a minimum 200 words My co-cultures (pg.28) affect me in my day to day life. One way is especially when it comes to the religious point of view. Which influences me on a daily basis because of the affect it has on the language I use. It also has a lot to do with how I view the world usually. I feel that I am able to have an open mind to most things. My ethnicity affects my perception pertaining to certain scenarios. Such as racism, which I have personally experienced more than once. Also that I find it to be strange to have any relationships, such as friendships with other men besides my husband. I feel that my gender (pg.198) helps me to open up and be more talkative than stereotypically women are in certain situations. It is hard for me to keep feelings inside especially when I feel someone has been wronged or wronged …show more content…
When it comes to people that I care about words of affirmation (pg.339), would be the primary language of love (pg.338) I would use. I think these words are important because the words can literally be just words of positivity. These words of affirmation (pg.338) will also let people know how you feel without always having to say them.
Step 3: Which of the love languages is the most difficult to communicate? The most difficult language of love to communicate would be physical touch (pg.340). Although, physical touch (pg.340) is a form of communicating love through expression or hugs such as from parents. Furthermore, physical touch could be difficult to communicate at times. Examples include when someone does not want a hug or kiss, even those who live far from one another. Step 4: What changes do you think you could make in the way you communicate love in your close relationships I honestly think that in my personal close relationships I should make use of words of affirmation (pg.339) and quality time (pg.339). These two seem to be the most important in building a strong bond and lets both people know how the other feels. Which at times can be hard in communication in

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