Chapter 3 Adult Roles

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Conceptual framework

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A set of interconnected ideas,concepts, and assumptions

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Eclectic approach

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Professionals who look at families and maybe two open and excepting of contradictory ideas

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Family systems theory

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Everything that happens to any family member has an impact on everyone else in the family

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Carl Whitaker

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Stated “there are no individuals in the world only fragments of families” this means that how people think and behave our influenced by their family background

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Open family system

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Refers to a family that is open to change and growth

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Flexibility

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The ability to balance and change

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Flexible families

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Need to have a balance between the extremes of chaos and rigidity

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Family flexibility

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Refers to sharing power, adjusting rules,and switching roles

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Cohesion

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The ability to balance separateness and connectedness

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Cohesive families

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Need to have a balance between the extremes of disengagement

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Disengaged families

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Friendships are more important the family

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Person in enmeshed relationship

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Tends to be vulnerable to jealousy, find their own personal growth stifled, and expect the impossible from their partners

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Healthy balance of separation and connection

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Works best for family in crisis

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Centripetal interactions

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Things that pull family members together and increase family closeness

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Centrifugal interactions

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Things that push family members apart and make them feel deprecate from each other

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Positive feedback

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Families intended to create change

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Negative feedback

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In families designed to minimize change and keeps things the same

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Appreciation and affection

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Are integral parts of strong families (touch)

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Positive communication

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In a family is about talking and listening to stay connected

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Sarcasm and avoiding verbal contact

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Are NOT examples of positive communication

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Sarcasm

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Used to mask anger

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Humor can have negative effects

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When it is used to place someone in a superior position and used sarcastically

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Most controversial finding in family strength

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Importance of religion/spiritual well-being

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Managing stress

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Strong families seek help if they cannot solve the issue them selves

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Meal times together

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Is a great way for strong families to spend time together

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Looking glass self

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A person who learns who they are based on the feedback they receive from others around them

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Social construction framework

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Humans are immersed in the social world ( our understanding of the world and beliefs are social products )

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Feminist framework

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This is the notion that woman are exploited, devalued, and oppressed and that society should commit to empowering woman and changing their conditions.

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Male listening style

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Irregular eye contact, infrequent nodding, doing other activity while speaking

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Female listening style

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Frequent nodding, uninterupted eye contact, and frequent use of yes and uh-huhs

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Deborah tannen

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wrote “you just don’t understand :men woman conversation” shows great difference in gender differences in communication

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Content and relationship

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The two kinds of info in people’s messages

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Mixed messages

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Messages in which there is a discrepancy between the verbal and nonverbal components of the message

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When there’s discrepancy

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People tend to rely on the nonverbal communication

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Meta-communication

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Dialogue about communication ( communicating about communicating )

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Double bind

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A situation in which the message relayed by speaker calls into question about the type of relationship the receiver has with the speaker

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To get out of a double bind

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Metacommunication

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Self-disclosure

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should be ongoing in an intimate relationship to keep their relationship grows

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Persuasive listening

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When the listener is really looking for an opening to jump in and control the conversation

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Directive listening

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When the listener attempts to control the direction of the conversation through the use of questions

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Attentive listening

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When the listener Let’s the speaker tell the story without interruption and encouraging rather than directing the speaker

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Assertive communication style

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The expression of thought feeling or desires as one’s right as an individual

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Aggressive communication style

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Communication that aims to protect one’s own self-esteem then often involves blaming or accusations

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Passive communication style

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And unwillingness to say what you think feel or want to win both people in a relationship have a passive Communication style the level of intimacy becomes lower

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Avoidance

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Persons tendency to minimize issues or to not deal with the issues directory

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Conflict Queen heterosexual gay and lesbian couples

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Is the same for conflict or supportive behavior

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Peoples suppress negative emotions because

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There are cultural taboos against the expression of anger and because of human insecurities

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The ones you are the angriest with

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Are the ones you love the most

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False beliefs about angry

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Anger is caused by others the best way to deal with anger is to let it all out anger is a beneficial emotion you’re a wimp if you don’t get angry

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Anger can be an ally two romantic partners when

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It leads you to attend the areas in the relationship that need work

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Purser

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And individuals who wants a very high degree of togetherness and expression of feelings in a relationship

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Distancer

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An individual who wants emotional space when stress is high is self-reliant rather than a help seeker and values privacy

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Over functioner

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An individual who knows what is best not only for themselves but for everyone else as well

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When a person gives an Ultimatum

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They are trying to put themselves in the position of the parent while making the other people feel like a child

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Resentment

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Occurs when sex is used to try to smooth over a disagreement between a couple

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Active listening

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Forces listener to understand the other’s point of view

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Constructive approach

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Stay focused on current topic and searches for similarities and sure positive and negative feelings

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Six steps to resolving conflict

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1. Find out what the person wants

2.identifying alternatives

3.how to negotiate

4.solidify agreement

5.review

6.renegotiate

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Competitive style

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Characterized by aggressiveness Madame cooperation pursuit of personal concerns

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Collaborative style

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Characterized by being highly assertive while showing a great deal for concerns of others

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Compromise style

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Characterized by a willingness to give up something to resolve an issue

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Avoidance style

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Characterized by nonassertive and passive behavior withdrawing at work changing the subject

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Accommodating style

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Characterized by nonassertive but cooperate of behavior