What Is Romantic Love Essay

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Hopefully everyone has felt to some degree the emotion we describe as love. There are many different types of love in our human society. The first one we are most likely to experience is the love that occurs between children and parents. It is usually an unconditional love and has a purpose in human biology. There is also the unrequited love often felt for the first time by school children who learn that all love is not returned equally.
Romantic love can be the most irrational causing sane people to commit insane acts. All of these different types have been written about countless times in literature since people began writing their thoughts down. Just like in all those other bodies of work the love experienced by the characters in "The Jilting
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There seems to be a sense that everything is a fairytale and love will always end with a "happily ever after" moment so people tend to dive in head first without checking the depth of the water. These stories are particularly adept at giving us examples of the things that can go wrong with romantic love.
In "What We Talk About When We Talk About Love" the two couples discuss a former boyfriend of Terri 's. The love he had for Terri is an example of how irrational romantic love can be. She recalls how he used to beat her but all the while he would tell her that he loved her. His romantic love for her was so irrational it manifested itself in a way
Mel described, as he "Loved her so much he tried to kill her" (carver 386). This is a great example illustrated by Carver as to the effects unregulated passionate love can have on a person who might otherwise be a rational and sane person. Terri eventually left him but that did not cure him from insanity that had taken over his mind. He started to stalk her and Mel until he eventually used a gun to commit suicide. This is a perfect example of how things can spiral out of control when reason is left by the wayside. It might even
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This is an example of how even love that is not shared by both parties can cause one person to act, as they normally would not. In this story Tillie Olsen illustrates this principle when she describes what Emily did to try and gain favor with this boy she had a crush on The daughter recounts to her mother a time when she had "Taken pennies from my purse to buy him candy"(Olsen 510). This unrequited love causes this young girl who does not have a history of theft to commit the act for approval of a boy who ends up liking another girl anyway. It is this love that is not founded in any other way than infatuation that can be the most irrational and dangerous to both parties involved.
The authors portray this concept in their work so well because they have lived it and believe it. This is especially true for Raymond Carver. Most of his work seems to take on this tone of despair for those who end up falling in love romantically. It can even be said of Carver himself "He believed faithfully in catastrophe"(Runyon 10). Only someone

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