Filial piety, gratitude, and merits are the three fundamental values between parents and children that are highly important, and they must be carried out and pass onto the next generation. Filial piety is defined as the obligation and duties that one must pay back to their parents as a sign that show the gratitude for the life and the nurturing they received. Merit, on the other hand, is to receive the wealth, the reputation, prosperity, and happiness that was accumulated by the past ancestors. (McLeod and Nguyen 136). In context of marriage, filial piety represents the duties that one must get married for the continuity of the family line. Male usually get marry at age 16th, while female get marry at age 15th. These are the normal age range to get married, because marrying young will results in numerous children that will definitely ensure the continuity of the family. According to the traditional Vietnamese marriage, most of them are often arranged by the intermediary so that it will bring in the harmony and tighten the knot between the two family (Nguyen and Belk, “Harmonization” 527) (McLeod and Nguyen 136). Unfortunately, those that are disobedient and disagree to the arrangement would be considered as filial impiety, an unacceptable act that could results in disownment. In the older cultures, filial piety is tie to marriage because often time, parents usually pick a total stranger for their children. They only look at the virtues, status, knowledge, and look departments instead of letting their children to go look for themselves. They believe that their choice is better and that is it unchangeable in any conditions. Carrying the duties and obligations to pay back to parents, one is responsible to satisfy the parents desires, even if it means they can’t satisfy themselves. Therefore, once the wife officially joins the family, it is her duties
Filial piety, gratitude, and merits are the three fundamental values between parents and children that are highly important, and they must be carried out and pass onto the next generation. Filial piety is defined as the obligation and duties that one must pay back to their parents as a sign that show the gratitude for the life and the nurturing they received. Merit, on the other hand, is to receive the wealth, the reputation, prosperity, and happiness that was accumulated by the past ancestors. (McLeod and Nguyen 136). In context of marriage, filial piety represents the duties that one must get married for the continuity of the family line. Male usually get marry at age 16th, while female get marry at age 15th. These are the normal age range to get married, because marrying young will results in numerous children that will definitely ensure the continuity of the family. According to the traditional Vietnamese marriage, most of them are often arranged by the intermediary so that it will bring in the harmony and tighten the knot between the two family (Nguyen and Belk, “Harmonization” 527) (McLeod and Nguyen 136). Unfortunately, those that are disobedient and disagree to the arrangement would be considered as filial impiety, an unacceptable act that could results in disownment. In the older cultures, filial piety is tie to marriage because often time, parents usually pick a total stranger for their children. They only look at the virtues, status, knowledge, and look departments instead of letting their children to go look for themselves. They believe that their choice is better and that is it unchangeable in any conditions. Carrying the duties and obligations to pay back to parents, one is responsible to satisfy the parents desires, even if it means they can’t satisfy themselves. Therefore, once the wife officially joins the family, it is her duties