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Throughout our life, we create relationships with people, and perhaps one of the most difficult stages in life is when we have to deal with the death of a family member. As expressed by Greenberg (2013) mourning a love one implies changes, which also add distress to a person's life. How to understand such critical moments in life? In examining this process, Dr. Alan Wolfelt (2003) describes the six most common patterns (or stages) of bereavement that a person can experience when dealing with the death of a love one. These, which were also illustrated by Dr. Kappes during our lecture, are: "Accept the reality of the death; Let yourself feel the pain of the loss; Remember the person who died; Develop a …show more content…
This explains why Greenberg (2013) states that the family serves many purposes in one's life and how my grandmother was a pillar in my emotional stability. Even though, time and the love of the other members of my family helped me with the recovery, I was no able to live in the house without my grandma, and her absence was one of the reasons I began to think about moving to another country. Here in America, I discovered new sources of meaning for my life, which allowed me to completely heal. Now, I am able to go back home and tell stories of me and my grandma, I am able to keep her alive in my heart, in the beautiful moments we …show more content…
Learning to cope with stressors is very important in the family, since it allow us to move forward in life (Greenberg, 2013). Many times I wish I knew so many concepts earlier in life. For instance, I believe that dealing with stressors in life, (in general, not only death), should be taught in schools like math and science. Maybe, even in biology, when one learns about the body and its functions. As Greenberg (2013) expressed, stressors are intimately related to our body reactions (to our susceptibility of getting sick). However, it also all depends in the way we learn to perceive them, in how fast we can send a signal to our brain that everything is ok, that we only saw a "rubber snake"(Kappes, 2015). I will humbly add that when dealing with the death of a love one, we also need to teach our body that the snake was real, in fact it did bite us, but we have the power of learning how to