Masculinity And Women

I have a female friend from high school who grew up with two older brothers. As she only have reference from her brothers, when it comes to choosing for toys, she likes to choose the action figures and toy cars which her brother often plays. Her parents on the other hands always ends up buying dolls and stuff animal for her. The problematic thing about man and women is that the standard is set in which there are specific things that only male or female can do. Her parents never allowed her brothers to play dolls with her as they say that it will decrease the man masculinity while she is allowed to attend fighting class with her brother as it will help women to learn skills to defend themselves. Mostly, it is okay for female to be a little manly …show more content…
However, men only tends to socialize with manly men or women while women tends to mingle with everyone. It seems like it is difficult for men in general to make friends with a gay unless you are one while women are fine with lesbian. It is as though if men were to mingle with a gay, they will be one too. That is why my high school male friend had a hard time making friends with a male. Up till now he still have more female friends and certain action of his is still too unmanly. Even though in the 21st century, women are no longer regarded as homemakers, it is still difficult for women to really depart from their traditional roles. When it comes to cleaning and cooking, women are always the first person to be called to do this task. I still remembers that my father are always telling me and my sister to help my mother to do the housework when I have two other brothers as well. When I question my father as to why only the girls have to do the housework, he will tell my brothers to help too as a way to show fairness. However, when cleaning has to be done, the first person he thinks of will always be the women. That is because when young, we learn the expectations of gender from our parents and what we learn is often the traditional expectations. Just like women are homemakers, men are breadwinner. Even though when we reach teenage age, we starts to learn the new expectations of gender, we are still unable to forget the expectations that we gain from our parents and that is why women are still unable to depart from their traditional roles. It is still rare to see cleaners and home helpers that are male. Women may be out working in the day but when they are back from work, they still does the cleaning and cooking. The only thing that has changed is that male are not the sole breadwinner anymore. Women seems to have