INTRODUCTORY THEORY RESEACH.
The 1857 Act introduced divorce through the court. Men were able to “petition the court” for a divorce on the basis of their wife 's adultery, which would have to be proved, as would the absence of any collusion or condonation of that adultery (Cooperative, n.d.). According to History.com, the first recorded divorce in the American colonies was that of Anne Clarke and her husband Denis Clarke of the Massachusetts Bay Colony on January 5, 1643. The divorce was granted by the Quarter Court of Boston, MA on the grounds that Denis Clarke abandoned his wife to be with another woman (Cooperative, n.d.).
Since divorce has been around for this length of time married couples have taken advantage of divorce without proper …show more content…
I was really excited because I thought that we could spend some time together before the kids got out of school. However, it turned out to be something totally different (Tears forming in her Eyes)
(Me) Ok Take a Deep breath and tell me what happened
(Mona) As I walked in I heard them
(Me) Who
(Mona) My Husband in his mistress was having sex in “OUR” bed.
(Me) What was your first thought?
(Mona) I was shocked then hurt now I am so angry
(Me) What did he say?
(Mona) He was actually angry with me for coming home early. How stupid is that. He called me names and said if I was doing what a wife supposed to do He wouldn’t have done these things. Now I feel totally responsible for the divorce. I also feel that maybe I could have done a better job at being a wife and mother.
(Me) Don’t blame yourself for his actions. So what is going on now that has you so enraged?
(Mona) He is not paying spousal support or child support and I am struggling to stay above water with the kids and bills
(Me) Since the incident and the finalization of your divorce have tried to speak with him?
(Mona) Yes he hangs up the phone he even refuses to see the kids. I just don’t understand how he said he loves me but hurt me so …show more content…
But I don’t see that the children have an issue with the divorce. Just me, I feel like I am having a nervous breakdown.
(Me) Again breathe and stay focus. Understanding your self-worth is very important. You deserve a better life for yourself and your children. So now this tragic event has unfolded where do you go from here. You set attainable goals for yourself. I can provide you with some additional information from agencies in your area to asset in your financial situation. And provide counseling for your children if you want.
(Mona) ok
(Me) Do you have support from family members or friends?
(Mona) Yes
(Me) I would start by allowing them to help if that is an option. Right now you are mentally drained and need to relax and focus on your life.
(Mona) ok I forgot to tell you that he also abused me mentally and physically. I can’t stop thinking about the pain he has inflicted on me. (Tears rolling down her face)
(Me) There are also local groups that you can attend maybe once or twice a week for battered women. Don’t feel as if you are alone in this matter. What he did was wrong and I understand how it affected you emotionally and physically. But you have to believe that you are a good person and you can recover from these
The 1857 Act introduced divorce through the court. Men were able to “petition the court” for a divorce on the basis of their wife 's adultery, which would have to be proved, as would the absence of any collusion or condonation of that adultery (Cooperative, n.d.). According to History.com, the first recorded divorce in the American colonies was that of Anne Clarke and her husband Denis Clarke of the Massachusetts Bay Colony on January 5, 1643. The divorce was granted by the Quarter Court of Boston, MA on the grounds that Denis Clarke abandoned his wife to be with another woman (Cooperative, n.d.).
Since divorce has been around for this length of time married couples have taken advantage of divorce without proper …show more content…
I was really excited because I thought that we could spend some time together before the kids got out of school. However, it turned out to be something totally different (Tears forming in her Eyes)
(Me) Ok Take a Deep breath and tell me what happened
(Mona) As I walked in I heard them
(Me) Who
(Mona) My Husband in his mistress was having sex in “OUR” bed.
(Me) What was your first thought?
(Mona) I was shocked then hurt now I am so angry
(Me) What did he say?
(Mona) He was actually angry with me for coming home early. How stupid is that. He called me names and said if I was doing what a wife supposed to do He wouldn’t have done these things. Now I feel totally responsible for the divorce. I also feel that maybe I could have done a better job at being a wife and mother.
(Me) Don’t blame yourself for his actions. So what is going on now that has you so enraged?
(Mona) He is not paying spousal support or child support and I am struggling to stay above water with the kids and bills
(Me) Since the incident and the finalization of your divorce have tried to speak with him?
(Mona) Yes he hangs up the phone he even refuses to see the kids. I just don’t understand how he said he loves me but hurt me so …show more content…
But I don’t see that the children have an issue with the divorce. Just me, I feel like I am having a nervous breakdown.
(Me) Again breathe and stay focus. Understanding your self-worth is very important. You deserve a better life for yourself and your children. So now this tragic event has unfolded where do you go from here. You set attainable goals for yourself. I can provide you with some additional information from agencies in your area to asset in your financial situation. And provide counseling for your children if you want.
(Mona) ok
(Me) Do you have support from family members or friends?
(Mona) Yes
(Me) I would start by allowing them to help if that is an option. Right now you are mentally drained and need to relax and focus on your life.
(Mona) ok I forgot to tell you that he also abused me mentally and physically. I can’t stop thinking about the pain he has inflicted on me. (Tears rolling down her face)
(Me) There are also local groups that you can attend maybe once or twice a week for battered women. Don’t feel as if you are alone in this matter. What he did was wrong and I understand how it affected you emotionally and physically. But you have to believe that you are a good person and you can recover from these