After being disappointed, I would keep distance from a person without clarifying the reasons. This behavior might be generated from a vulnerability problem I discussed above. Expressing disappointment means admitting the importance of a person in one’s life. Only after taking a closer look at my happiness, I noticed that shunning from a person causes more harm than openly expressing my emotions. The last time friend upset me, I felt the need to hide disappointment in the beginning, but followed this rule and promoted friendship and happiness at the same time.
The last commandment is about accepting human beings’ flawed nature and forgiving ourselves for making mistakes. There are things we can change, but some mistakes are impossible to fix. They should be accepted, remembered and forgiven. I forgave myself for saying something that hurt a person, not managing time to find a campus job, forgetting Chinese tutorial sessions. However, the essence of this rule is not leaving past behind, but being more prudent in the future. While dwelling on the past negatively affects my wellbeing, avoiding mistakes leads to greater