Importance Of Sex Before Marriage

Human sexuality is a four-dimensional activity that involves pleasure, an expression of friendship, procreation, and/or an expression of love for one another (Thiroux & Krasemann). Some would argue that sexuality is the most intimate expression of love towards each other. During the nineteenth century, there were laws in place that prohibited many types of private sexual activities amongst consenting adults. In addition, such laws included the activities of a husband and wife and if found guilty, the individuals was charged with a felony. Today, many of these laws have been deemed unfair and repealed in many states. This leads to a provocative question of should there be sex before marriage, in other words where do you stand on the subject …show more content…
According to utilitarianism theory, the shared sexual pleasure gained from the relationship adds value and happiness to the partners. Consensual secretes more happiness to individuals and if harm or negative consequences can be managed then there is no need of curtailing people from engaging in premarital sex. Utilitarianism focuses on the consequences that result from engaging in an action as the basis for judging an act whether it is moral or immoral. Hence, sex is moral if it is accompanied by the consent from both partners in love. It creates happiness to greatest number in society as opposed to restricting it only to a married couple. Therefore according to the proponents of this theory premarital sex is moral provided people engaging in it are fully aware of the consequences and can manage them so that they do not cause harm or unhappiness to their lives and that of others (Feinberg & Feinberg, …show more content…
Many of the arguments for and against premarital sex are the same. As a child of a single parent, I have a strong support for premarital sex. I grew up in the early 70 's with no father in the house and not really understanding why since most of my friends had both parents in the house. I never had an opportunity to experience the love of a father so during my teen years I started engaging in premarital sex because I wanted to experience love. It was not until I reached my early 20 's did I realize that sex and love were not the same. Once I started understanding the difference I made the decision to abstain from sex until I was married. This was during the time when couples started dissolving marriages just because they did not "get alone" anymore. I made the decision that I wanted to experience what love was without all of the added pressures of sex. Although it was difficult in the beginning, I eventually stood my ground. When I first met my husband, we went back and forth with sex pressures but eventually we both agreed that we would wait. One year later, we were married and 26 years later, we are happier than ever before. We both contribute our desire to remain into the relationship to the fact that we spent a year getting to know each other without the complications of sex and all the issues that come with it. Additionally we developed a