Child Divorce Research

To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God 's holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge thee my faith and pledge myself to you. These are commonly used vows in most weddings, but the thing is, here in America it does not follow through. Right now in 2016 America’s divorce rate is at 40-50 percent (Irvin). Half of the people that repeat these vows to their significant other end up getting divorced. With that said, think of all the children growing up with divorced parents. No matter the circumstances, the child should be supported through many different networks. A parent 's divorce has negative effects as it …show more content…
One of the biggest factors is age. Depending on the age of the child during the divorce could determine the feelings they have. An infant will not comprehend what is going on during a divorce, but will feel the negative energy coming off their parents. This can cause the infant to lose much needed sleep and make the divorce more challenging for the parents. This also can lead to lasting impacts, as it can have a negative effect on the parent-child attachment. As for pre-schoolers, they can feel like it is their fault and could start to fear the fact of becoming abandoned. The toughest age going through divorce is pre-adolescents. They are old enough to realize what is going on and see their parents start to drift away. The hardest part about this age during a divorce is that fact that in that stage they still do not have any coping skills to get through the process. As for a teenager, they become very stressed and have to think about the future, and how they will manage time with both parents (Forehand). Another big factor on how divorce affects children is gender. Girls have more psychosomatic problems than boys do, the most frequent problem for girls being feeling sad for no reason and feeling that way for long periods of time (Oaklander). Sleeping was the biggest problem with kids overall, that could be due to nightmares or missing the parent that they are not with. The best way to help a child after or even during the long process of divorce is to enter them in some type of counseling or therapy. What this does is give someone that knows different ways to help people work through problems and traumatic events. The biggest thing they do to help the child is give them tools to help them cope with the pain if they do not know how to already. It could be the simplest small ideas to relax them, like naming three things they hear at the moment or drawing a