When Julie made the break from her abusive boyfriend she no long spoke to their mutual friends as she was worried that they would pass information along to him. Prior to examining the safety plan, Julie had never thought about having a routine for shopping or taking care of business, however determined that she did have an identifiable pattern. Julie could see the benefits of changing that routine in order to decrease her stress or worry that someone could follow her or that she might run into her ex-boyfriend. Another concern that Julie had was that living in a rural area that people would unknowingly provide her ex with information as to her whereabouts or plans, which would prompt him to become angry or further restrict her ability to
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Julie was not able to eat and was suffering emotional distress due to not only ending the relationship but because she was pregnant and felt alone. Julie identified that having family and friends supporting her once they found out about the abusive relationship was very comforting to her. That support also helped Julie as she was subjected to harassing and stalking activities once she left the relationship. Julie acknowledged that talking to an outside third party, such as a counselor, once she left was very beneficial. Julie expressed regret that she did not have that support while she was in the relationship. Julie could see in hindsight that she had been isolated and cut off from friends and family as well and financially controlled. Julie identified that in the future she would not cut her family out again as they could have helped her much sooner had they known what was going on. Julie recognized that she could have had many supports available to her however she did not reach out to them. I, like Julie felt going through the plan was an eye opening experience which brought my attention to many areas that I had not considered before. Having been in an abusive relationship myself I could not help filling in the blanks for myself when I initially examined the plan and then comparing my answers to those given by Julie. While in the abusive relationship Julie had no idea that she was being controlled in so many different areas and on so many different levels until she began exploring the safety
Julie was not able to eat and was suffering emotional distress due to not only ending the relationship but because she was pregnant and felt alone. Julie identified that having family and friends supporting her once they found out about the abusive relationship was very comforting to her. That support also helped Julie as she was subjected to harassing and stalking activities once she left the relationship. Julie acknowledged that talking to an outside third party, such as a counselor, once she left was very beneficial. Julie expressed regret that she did not have that support while she was in the relationship. Julie could see in hindsight that she had been isolated and cut off from friends and family as well and financially controlled. Julie identified that in the future she would not cut her family out again as they could have helped her much sooner had they known what was going on. Julie recognized that she could have had many supports available to her however she did not reach out to them. I, like Julie felt going through the plan was an eye opening experience which brought my attention to many areas that I had not considered before. Having been in an abusive relationship myself I could not help filling in the blanks for myself when I initially examined the plan and then comparing my answers to those given by Julie. While in the abusive relationship Julie had no idea that she was being controlled in so many different areas and on so many different levels until she began exploring the safety