Speech V15- Chapter 10

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relational development

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movement of a relationship from one stage to another, either toward or away form greater intimacy

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causal turning point

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event that brings about a change in a relationship

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reflective turning point

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event that signals that a change has occurred in a way a relationship is defined.

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Stages of relational escalation

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There are 5:

preinteraction awareness, acquaintance, exploration, intensification, intimacy

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pre-interaction awareness

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observe someone or ask someone else about that person (Passive strategy)

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acquaintance

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first interaction; presentation of your "public self"

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Two substages in the acquaintance stage

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Introduction and Casual Banter

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Introduction

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interaction is routine and basic information is shared

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Casual banter

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impersonal topics are discussed but very limited personal information is shared

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Exploration

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Sharing of more in depth information about self; little physical contact; maintain social distance; time together limited

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Intensification

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depend on each other for self confirmation; risky self disclosure

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Intimacy

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confirmation and acceptance; communication is personalized and synchronized;

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Relational De-escalation

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movement of a relationship away from intimacy

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Stages of De-escalation

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There are five:

turmoil (stagnation), deintensification, individualization, separation, and post separation

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Post intimacy relation

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formerly intimate relationship that is maintained at a less intimate stage.

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Turmoil or Stagnation

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Turmoil involves increase of conflict and find more faults in one another; relationship loses clarity; communication is tense and difficult

stagnation is when relationship loses vitality and becomes complacent; communication and contact decrease

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Deintensification

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decreasing interaction; increasing distance; decreasing dependence and self confirmation

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individualization

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lives defined as individuals rather than a couple; perspective changes from "we" to "me"

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Post Separation effects

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lasting effects the relationship has on yourself; sense of self gets battered;

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Process suggested by Steve Ducks.

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Process of filtering: reducing partners moving to each stage by applying selection criteria.

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Two theories that affect the filtering process.

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Social exchange theory and dialectical theory

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social exchange theory

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theory that claims people make relationship decisions by assessing and comparing the costs and rewards.

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Immediate rewards and cost

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Rewards and cost associated with a relationship at the present moment

think about your current relationship and assess its current value

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forecasted rewards and cost

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rewards and cost an individual assumes will occur; based on projection and prediction

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cumulative rewards and cost

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total rewards and cost accrued during the relationship

It might be low now, but the highs from before will be worth staying in the relationship

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Expected cost and rewards

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expectation of how much reward we should get from a given relationship in comparison to its costs.

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Dialectical Theory

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theory that relational development occurs in conjunction with various tensions that exist in all relationships

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Dialectical tensions that Leslie Baxter identified.

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There are three:

connectedness vs autonomy

predictability vs novelty

openness vs closedness

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Connectedness vs Autonomy

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desire to be connected and interdependent; while at the same time be autonomous and dependent

The one that occurs the most with married couples.

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Predictability vs novelty

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Certainty vs Uncertainty

knowing what to expect and being able to predict the world around us helps reduce the tension from uncertainty.

at the same time we get bored with constant repetition and are attracted to the unexpected.

horror movies

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Openness vs Closedness

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wish to disclose information to others and them to disclose to us.

At the same time, we want privacy and hold back information.

Most important of the three tensions for married couples.