The Dying Adult By Colin Murry Parkes: Article Analysis

Death is something that is never easy to cope with. My relationship with death started at a young age with my father and followed into my adulthood with grandparents and close friends. I know from my side of the table that the grieving process has been different for me every time. For instance, when I was just a boy and my father passed away I can remember being so fearful or the unknown, I felts such a deep unexplainable pain. On the other hand, when I was at the age of 23 I lost my grandmother and I can remember feeling very sad but it was more of like I was empty; it was like as if I shut down, closed myself to the world and myself, like I would not allow myself to feel that same pain that I had felt before with my father. In the article the “The Dying Adult,” Colin Murry Parkes speaks on the fact that the person that losing the loved one is not the only one that experiences this grief. Parkes talks about how the doctor has to experience a grief process after creating a relationship with the patient (Parkes,1998,1p.1313+). The individual that is dying has to go through a grief process. This individual is losing their life and must come to terms that they must let go. The person losing their life has to grief not just over themselves but over losing all their loved on because they will be gone. …show more content…
Parkes talks about how fear feeds on fear or “fear builds on fear” (Parkes,1998,1313+). I think was Parkes means by this is that fear causes us to worry or to obsess. After the obsess accrues computation can follow if we allow it to. This fear pushes us away from any kind of healthy thought process which pushes us in to a deeper hole emotional terminal. The only thing that can counteract fear is faith. The have faith you must have trust first so it become a process that an individual must go through after overwhelming themselves with this