Arranged Versus Love Marriage
My friend Maria was a brilliant first year college student who had a GPA of 3.80 before she got married. She had a plan to have at least her master’s degree and if possible, get her PhD degree before she got married. However, Maria could not reach her dreams because of her parent`s old tradition of an arranged marriage. In her case, she ended up being a housewife with three children and a very abusive and manipulative husband. Maria`s husband, Samson, was fifteen years older than her. “Is that what you want for our daughter? Do you not want to see her being an independent and well educated women?” This was my aunt`s reply to her husband, Ghirmay, when he insisted to make arrangements to get a husband for my oldest …show more content…
Although an arranged marriage creates a better relationship between the couples and their father and mother-in-law than love marriages, I believe that love marriage is preferable for two reasons: love marriage often occurs when the girl is mature and has at least finished her high school, and couples of love marriage usually have a better relationship than …show more content…
As a matter of fact, usually, arranged marriages cause trouble among the spouses after marriage. For instance, Maria had met him a few times before the wedding, introduced by their families in an arranged union. However, soon after the ceremony, her husband became hostile and controlling; besides, he had a rough behavior because he was alcoholic. This shows that due to the fact that the wife and husband do not know each other at all or do not have enough time to learn about each other, arranged marriage results in a very deep quarrel between the spouses. Consequently, unlike most love marriage, there are numerous arranged marriages that end up in divorce. Divorce occurs often in an arranged than love marriage, and there are even some Eritrean parents that consider it a humble failure and do not accept their son or daughter to be divorced. In these cases, it becomes more stressful for the victim, and the victim may be tempted to commit suicide as he or she is forced to live his or her horrible life without any solution in order to avoid letting down his or her parents. Thus, love marriage is better than arranged marriage regarding the future relationship among spouses after marriage since love marriage provides people with a chance to learn about their spouse`s personality or behavior before they decide whether to get married or
My friend Maria was a brilliant first year college student who had a GPA of 3.80 before she got married. She had a plan to have at least her master’s degree and if possible, get her PhD degree before she got married. However, Maria could not reach her dreams because of her parent`s old tradition of an arranged marriage. In her case, she ended up being a housewife with three children and a very abusive and manipulative husband. Maria`s husband, Samson, was fifteen years older than her. “Is that what you want for our daughter? Do you not want to see her being an independent and well educated women?” This was my aunt`s reply to her husband, Ghirmay, when he insisted to make arrangements to get a husband for my oldest …show more content…
Although an arranged marriage creates a better relationship between the couples and their father and mother-in-law than love marriages, I believe that love marriage is preferable for two reasons: love marriage often occurs when the girl is mature and has at least finished her high school, and couples of love marriage usually have a better relationship than …show more content…
As a matter of fact, usually, arranged marriages cause trouble among the spouses after marriage. For instance, Maria had met him a few times before the wedding, introduced by their families in an arranged union. However, soon after the ceremony, her husband became hostile and controlling; besides, he had a rough behavior because he was alcoholic. This shows that due to the fact that the wife and husband do not know each other at all or do not have enough time to learn about each other, arranged marriage results in a very deep quarrel between the spouses. Consequently, unlike most love marriage, there are numerous arranged marriages that end up in divorce. Divorce occurs often in an arranged than love marriage, and there are even some Eritrean parents that consider it a humble failure and do not accept their son or daughter to be divorced. In these cases, it becomes more stressful for the victim, and the victim may be tempted to commit suicide as he or she is forced to live his or her horrible life without any solution in order to avoid letting down his or her parents. Thus, love marriage is better than arranged marriage regarding the future relationship among spouses after marriage since love marriage provides people with a chance to learn about their spouse`s personality or behavior before they decide whether to get married or