Hmong Marriage In America

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Hmong migrated to the United States since 1975 about thirty-nine years ago. Today, Hmong tradition is still going on and powerful among the youth. Hmong marriages are slowly changing over each generation. There are now the second and third generations within the Hmong society in America. Over the years, Hmong communities are becoming more Americanized, especially the adolescence. Hmong parents are strict and are still traditional. Now days in 2014, there are more interracial marriages, wedding styles are changing, but many Hmong elders are against interracial marriage. In earlier days for the Hmong people, marriage were very different from how it is today. Hmong traditional marriage has changed in America and how are Hmong people adapting …show more content…
Most Hmong elders are still not used to life here in America, but younger generation are adapting to the mainstream of society better than their parents. Hmong traditional wedding has begun to change. Back in Laos marriage was very different from America because young girls as early as thirteen years old can get marry. “Hmong have been stereotyped elsewhere as encouraging their daughters to marry at an early age” (Hutchison, 579). There are three different types of marriage in Laos. “The first one is a formal proposal which is when a man and representatives from his family do a formal house call. They bring gifts and money and ask permission to marry their daughter. The second one is when a man is interested in a woman, and he gives her a gift. If she accepts it, it means she agrees to marry him. Another one is when the groom will then “take” his bride, or she will “run away” with him to his house. His family is now responsible for her and send an envoy to the bride’s family to announce that their daughter is with them. The third is when the bride is kidnap from the groom with other men to take her to his house” (Traditional Hmong Weddings and Marriages). Hmong weddings are expensive and takes a long process. “They have to go through parent’s approval from both side. The groom’s side of the family has to prepared money to negotiate with the bride family. They talk about the money to set a price for the bride …show more content…
Some elders are Americanize and like the American society and culture rather than Hmong. Hmong: Interracial Marriage they did a survey and questionnaire among Hmong and other races. Are their parent accepting it or not? “How do you think your parents would react if you were to date out of your race? A twenty-four Hmong male says, I don’t think it’s a good idea for me since my dad has this like status among our clan and community. If I date or marry someone out of race will probably cause other people to look down on him. A Hmong girl age twenty-four says my parents would be fine with it. It’s my life anyway and they believe in me and my choices” (Hmong). It all depends on the parents and it will make their children think twice before doing something disappointing to their family. For instance, I have girl cousin who is marry to an African American. At first my uncle and aunt did not like it at all and they were so against it. After a while, they see the kindness in him and started to like him more. Also they love my niece and spoil her. In the end, it is really how both or individual parents think about interracial marriage among their Hmong status, values, and

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