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32 Cards in this Set
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Need things other than...
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God
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Avoidant
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move away from God, turn to other things |
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Ambivalent
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God can never be pleased, only feel loved to please God, don't have a secure relationship, working on it
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Disorganized
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God doesnt seem trustworthy, I'm not good enough. Present is continuation of the past
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Secure
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Sees God as a secure base, safe haven. ex. Rita-knows how to handle emotions and respond well.
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Compensation
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Take our experiences and project them onto God |
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Correspondence
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Correspond with others/caregivers
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When we move away from God we....
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move away from others
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Skill?
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Learning to connect/know/experience w/ God
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In order to have the connection with God skill you have to...
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Get in touch with your inner self(S's)
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Solitude
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Disconnect from life and distractions
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Silence
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Quiet time, time for yourself and your thoughts to process
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Simplicity |
Slow down time, not being consumed with all the events and everything around you
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Secrecy
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Humble, staying true, be yourself
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Simple Prayer
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Pray w/o ceasing. Not just running to God when things go wrong
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Meditation
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Time for you to listen to God and focus on the things he is telling/leading you to
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Secure
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Judicially
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Disorganized
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Distance but also can be consumed
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Avoidant
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Distance
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Ambivalent
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Consumed
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Primary emotions
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how you initially feel when something happens, your reaction
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Secondary emotions
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Consequences from responding to primary emotions
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5 Triggers
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1. relationship disputes- renogotiation, impace, disillusion, 2. transitions 3. unresolved grief 4. loneliness mostly combined with of first three 5. negative thinking |
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6 steps to calming emotional storms
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1. Identify Primary feeling 2. Connect primary feeling to triggering situation 3. Target negative thinking/thought patterns 4. Behave differently 5. Problem solving techniques; brainstorming, evaluating 6. Plugging in to healthy relationships |
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What causes others to drive apart?
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Want attention; needs not being met.
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Pursue/Withdrawl Cycle
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1 person Pursue-tries to work out other person Withdrawal- gives up |
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Secure know how to _______ emotions
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Regulate
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Insecure express emotions ________
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explosively
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Foster connection
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-being willing to be the first to change -putting away radar system -I GRACE you -accept offers for connection -Pray together |
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T factors of parenting
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Temperament Time- quality and quantity Touch- safety Teaching- intellectual & emotional Tenacity- sticking with it |
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Breaking Free steps
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1. Remember your story 2. Recognize pain and need for healing 3. Reframe meaning of your story 4. Repair your story 5. Reconnecting |
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The zone for parenting
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Find balance in parenting children
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