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47 Cards in this Set
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Is a natural response to loss. Is the emotional, social and physical process of dealing with an extremely negative and / or stressful event. It's usually linked to death or loss of someone or something that you love and care about Is the reaction to the loss the loss crying (or even a lack of crying) withdrawal; denial; anger, etc |
Grief |
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anyone can ____ men and woman sometimes _____ differently; in some cases they may not even realize they are blanking. Can pets ____? Death (the most common reason) Divorce/ separation (death of a familiar family dynamic ) Loss of relationship Illness (sudden / terminal / facial deformities) Finances / loss of job Traumatic event Death of a pet Midlife crisis/unmet expectations; kids coming out of age and/or bullying in school or work, etc. Moving out of state and / or for school, Military, etc. |
Reasons of grief |
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Denial anger bargaining depression acceptance |
Five stages of grief |
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"No this is not happening" ignore, refuse to acknowledge; unable to process the situation |
denial |
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How could you do this?! How could this happen?! Emotions become overwhelming for some; may blame themselves |
Anger |
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"If only I had done this... " attempt to get control of situation; pleading; praying as well |
Bargaining |
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Feelings of hopelessness, despair |
Depression |
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Letting go, being "ok", one day at a time ability to manage the pain and not let it consume your life; for some this stage may never come |
Acceptance |
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When people in relationships have different views, interests, or goals and feel a need to resolve those differences Express disagreement Intern dependence The felt need for a solution |
Conflict |
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PARENTS ◾grades ◾ lazy, no chores / cleaning ◾curfew issues / going out ◾treating teens or adults like Children ◾Siblings ◾Sharing ◾Typical sibling rivalry ◾Poor attitude, lack of ◾responsibility/accountability Spouse/ Romantic relationship $$$$$$ finances are the #1 reason for divorce! Friend's Sports rivalries Single vs married friends Children, busy lifestyle... Lifestyle choices in general One of you likes to drink, "party" go out, etc... Jealousy and competition Dating among friends Spouse / partners of your friends you dislike. |
Reasons of conflict |
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The exit response The neglect response The loyalty response The voice response |
Responses to conflict |
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Communicate supportive me listen mind fully on your feelings, thought, and issues check perceptions, ask questions / clarify look four points of agreement. |
Conflict management skills |
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Remorse stop the behavior (response) acknowledge the offense recognition reparation (make amends ) To be a good apology, it must be sincere Be accountable, don't "blame" the other person |
4 parts of an apology |
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Physical touch quality time gifts acts of service words of affirmation |
The five love languages |
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The process of deliberately revealing information about you that is significant and wouldn't normally be known by others |
Self disclosure |
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Catharsis reciprocity Self clarification self validation identity management Relationship maintenance and enhancement social influence |
Benefits of self disclosure |
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Sometimes with disclose information to get it off my chest I'm screaming... I express everything" Shania Twain |
Catharsis |
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There is no guarantee that your self disclosure will be reciprocal. If it is, it is not always going to be equal. It takes time! |
Reciprocity |
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Talking the problem out with others, including therapist occur sweetheart and hair dressers and bartenders, even good friends. |
Self- clarification |
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Disclosing information while looking for listeners agreement it can affirm your self-worth, especially when it's positive |
Self validation |
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Revealing personal information to make herself more attractive a salesperson might say,"..... I'll be honest with you." |
Identity management |
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Revealing personal information and increase your level of control. We offer information about ourselves to learn more about others |
Social influence |
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Rejection, negative impression, decrease in relational satisfaction, loss of influence or control, hurting the other person |
Risk of self disclosure |
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The fear of disapproval is powerful some real dangerous in revealing personal information |
Rejection |
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Disclosure can lead to a negative impression someone might think less of you now... |
Negative impression |
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To save face To avoid tension or conflict To guide social interaction To expand or reduce relationship To gain power |
Reasons for lying |
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Orientation exploratory affective Exchange affective exchange stable exchange |
Four stages of social penetration theory |
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Invest thoughts, feelings What do you invest in a relationship Time Your self, emotions, and money |
Investment |
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The decision to remain in that a relationship, a decision is not a feeling, remaining in that relationship |
Commitment |
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Need to be committed |
Trust |
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Where there is no faith in the future, there is no power in the present, Roy Johnston physical emotional and spiritual |
Intimacy |
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Its natural Beneficial Maybe Express overly or convertly Can be managed well or poorly Can be good for individuals and relationships |
Conflict myths |
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A strong feeling of enthusiasm or excitement for something or about doing something |
Passion |
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If you find yourself regularly playing the victim in tough situations with your partner, you might be guilty of being |
defensiveness |
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Involves turning a behavior (something your partner did) into a statement about his or her character (the type of person he or she is) |
Criticism |
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a virulent mix of anger and disgust, is for more toxic than simple frustration or negativity. It involves seeing your partner as believe you, rather than as an equal. |
Contempt |
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You know when an argument is about to start. you can feel your heart rate increase and your voice gets just a tiny bit louder. But the moment things start to get heat it, do you pull out your phone, walk away, or simply ignore your partner? |
Stonewalling |
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The topics you talk about |
Breadth |
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how deep you go on that topic |
Depth |
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Invest thought feelings what do you invest in a relationship |
Investment |
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A decision to remain in that relationship A decision is not a feeling Remaining in that relationship |
Commitment |
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Need to be committed |
Trust |
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Physical intimacy Emotional Spiritual Where there is no faith in the future there is no power the present |
Intimacy |
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Involuntary passive sounds |
Hearing |
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Voluntary active sounds with meaning |
Listening |
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Message overload message complexity noise |
External obstacles |
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Preoccupation prejudgment reacting to emotional language lack of effort failure to adapt to different listening styles |
Internal obstacles |
