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Interdependence
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A state in which each persons behaviors affect everyone else in the relationship.
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Investment
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the resources we put into our relationships.
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Dialectical tensions
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Conflicts between two important but opposing needs or desires
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Monogamy
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being in only on romantic relationship at a time and avoiding romantic or sexual involvement with others.
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infidelity
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sexual involvement with someone other than your spouse
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Initiating stage (part of relationship development)
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the stage of relationship development when people meet and interact for the first time.
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Experimenting stage (part of relationship development)
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the stage of relationship development when partners have conversations to learn more about each other
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Intensifying stage (part of relationship development)
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The stage of relationship development when people move from being acquaintances to being close friends
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Integrating stage (part of relational development)
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the stage of relationship development when a deep commitment has formed and there is a strong sense that the relationship has its own identity
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Bonding stage ( part of relational development)
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the stage of relationship development when the partners publicly announce their commitment.
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CMP theory
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theory developed to explain how people manage the tensions between privacy and disclosure
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Differentiating stage
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stage of relationship dissolution, differences seen as annoying and undesirable.
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circumscribing stage
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quality and quantity of communication decreases.
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stagnating stage
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when they barley communicate
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avoiding stage
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creating physical and emotional distances
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Terminating stage
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relationship deemed to be officially over
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family of origin
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family in which you grew up in
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family of procreation
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the family you start as an adult
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systems
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an arrangement of people who interact with one another in complex interdependent ways.
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confirming messages
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behaviors that indicate how much we value another person
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Interpersonal conflict
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an expressed struggle between interdependent parties who perceive incompatible goals
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Five basic characteristics of conflict in personal relationships:
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It's natural
It has content, relational and procedural dimensions It can be direct or indirect It can be harmful It can be beneficial |
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content dimensions
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the specific topics from which the conflict arose.
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relational dimensions
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the implications the conflict has for the relationship.
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procedural dimensions
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the rules or expectations we follow for how to engage in conflict.
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meta-conflict
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conflict about conflict
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Three most common sources of conflict
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1. Personal criticisms
2. Finances 3. House hold chores |
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Passive agression
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a pattern of behaving vengefully while denying that one has aggressive feelings.
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Demand-withdraw pattern
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A pattern of behavior where in one party makes demands and the other party withdraws from the conversation.
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disinhibition effect
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the tendency to say or do things in one environment (such as online) that one would not say or do in most other environments.
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symmetrical relationship
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a relationship between parties of equal power.
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complementary relationship
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a relationship between parties of unequal power.
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one-up message
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a verbal message through which the speaker attempts to exert dominance or gain control over the listener
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one-down message
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a verbal message that reflects acceptance of, or submission to, another person's power.
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one-across message
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a verbal message that seeks to neutralize relational control and power.
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reward power
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power based on the ability to reward for compliance.
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Coercive power
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power based on the ability to punish for noncompliance
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referent power
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power based on liking, admiring, and being attracted to the powerful party.
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legitimate power
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power based on rightfully granted status or position.
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Expert power
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power based on special knowledge training, experience, and/or expertise.
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"four horsemen of the apocalypse" are,
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Criticism
Contempt Defensiveness Stone walling |
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criticism
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the expression of complaints about another party.
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contempt
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the expression of insults and attacks on another's self-worth.
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defensiveness
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the tendency to deny the validity of criticisms directed at the self.
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stonewalling
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the behavior of withdrawing from a conversation or an interaction
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