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The two key elements of Baumeister and Leary's argument on belonging
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1)frequent and emotionally pleasant interactions with at least a few other people
2)Stability of these affectional relationships over time |
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Attachment
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The formation of social bonds
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Organic affection
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used to describe how the infant monkey clings to its mother long before it can actually recognize her
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Attachment research
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Occurred during world war II, when British psychiatrist John Bowlby was asked to study children who had been orphaned or otherwise separated from their parents and families.
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Internal working model
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or cognitive and emotional blueprint, of how relationships are likely to unfold in the future
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Securely attached children
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Gets upset when caregiver leaves and the calms down when caregiver returns
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Anxiously attached children
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Gets upset when the caregiver leaves but never really calms down, and when the caregiver comes back is both clingy and resistance. Displays ambivalence.
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Avoidantly attached children
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Does not get upset during caregiver separation and does not acknowledge caregiver when they return
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Other aspects of Baumeister and Leary's argument on belonging:
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1)Even though relationships are a good thing, there can be enough of a good thing.
2)If someone loses a close relationship for one reason or another, sometimes that relationship can be replaced with a similar relationship |
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Mikulincer and Segal's types of loneliness
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Depressive
Emotional Isolation Esteem Loneliness Social estrangment |
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Depressive loneliness
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wich can involve longing for a loved one
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Emotional isolation
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feeling rejected
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Esteem loneliness
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which has fear, shame and alienation at its core
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social estrangement
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no social ties
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Aspects of contemporary relationships
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Context
Diversity Knowledge |
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Aspects of contemporary relationships: Context
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Look at both immediate and larger societal context
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Aspects of contemporary relationshps: Diversity
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relationships come in different colors, shapes, forms and sizes
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Aspects of contemporary relationships: Knowledge
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the level of knowledge we have about relationships
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Attitude
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orientation towards or away from a particular object that involves emotion, some sort of belief of knowledge and a tendency to behave in a certain way
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affect
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emotion
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balance theories
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life is simpler and attraction is greater when people and things are in harmony
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attitude alignment
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individuals experience discomfort when they discover that their attitudes are inconsistent with those of a close partner and are motivated to change their attitudes to achieve congruence with the attitudes of the partner
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similarity
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attraction increased in direct proportion to increases in similarity between the participant and bogus stimulus stranger
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arousal
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refers to physiological arousal and the pare it plays in emotional states
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Fatal attraction
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1) a partner being dissimilar to oneself
2) a partner being unique or different from the average 3) a partner being different from normative gender role expectations (what is expected of a man or woman) |
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Promiximity
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The more they interact, the more they will like or be attracted to each other
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frequency of exposure
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how often the couple sees each other
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Visual, interaction, consisting of eye gaze and eye contact can signify...
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Intimacy or aggression
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children in friendship dyads were more...
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nonverbally alike
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physical attractiveness
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attracted to another is outward appearance
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men tend to like women with...
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small noses, small chins, large eyes and a waist to hip ratio of .07
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women tend to like men...
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.9 hip to waist ratio
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Matching hypothesis
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we seek a romantic partner who is at our same level of attractiveness or social desirability
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Beauty equals goodness hypothesis
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physically attractive were also rated as having more socially desirable personalities, greater occupational success, and greater marital, professional, and general happiness
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reciprocity
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feeling that emotions and behaviors are given and received fairly equally in a relationship
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parental investment
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which proposes that men and women have different reproductive strategies
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sexual strategies theory
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proposes that since women and men have evolved different short-term and long-term strategies for mate selection, these differences may be expressed in a number of ways
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When gender equality increased....
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women's preferences for men who were older and who had greater earning potentional decreased, as did men's preferences for women who were younger and who had domestic skills
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social penetration theory
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the social masks outward appearances must be penetrated so as to the inner core of someone
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Social penetration refers to...
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1) overt interpersonal behaviors which take place in social interaction
2) internal subjective processes which precede, accompany, and follow overt exchange |
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self-disclosure
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or the process of revealing one's feelings and thoughts to another
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self-disclosure; breadth
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variety to topics
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self-disclosure; depth
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intimacy of topics
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Romantic beliefs
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beliefs like " love overcomes obstacles" and "there is only one true love for everyone" associated with relationship quality but do not predict relationship quality
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Romantic beliefs for men
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predicted greater commitment at a later time when endorsed earlier
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Romantic beliefs for women
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commitment predicted romanticism
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positive illusions
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idealized beliefs that relationship partners may have about each other
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trust
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expectation that a partner is intrinsically motivated to take one's own best interests into account
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Commitment
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a person's declared intention to stay in a relationship
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personal commitment
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general, overall attitude and intention
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moral commitment
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feeling morally obligated to remain in the relationship
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structural commitment
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having barriers to ending the relationship
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approach commitment
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positive reasons for maintaining a relationship
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avoidance commitment
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negative reasons for maintaining a relationship
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mutuality of commitment
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how similar partners are in the commitment
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relationship-driven commitment
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smooth progress that takes time
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event-driven commitment
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more rapid progress, with more ups and downs
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interdependence theory
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emphasizes the degree to which relational partners are reciprocally involved in the relationship and involves two key constructs: Lvl of dependence and mutuality of dependence
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Interdependence theory: Level of dependence
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refers to how much someone depends on the relationship for meeting his or her needs
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Interdependence theory: mutuality of dependence
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refers to how similar the partners are in their dependence/involvement in the relationship
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compatibility models of courtship
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are concerned with how well partner get along with each other, or with their similarities and differences
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sequential filtering model
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the similarity or certain personal and family values becomes important early in the relationship, agreement on personal and family values becomes important at a later stage, and complementary needs become important further on
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interpersonal process models
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are less concerned with relationship stages and more with the relationship process or how partner characteristics and environmental forces interact and change over time
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prolonged courtship
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slow ans difficult process
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accelerated courtship
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rapid and seemingly almost problem free
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intermediate courtship
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falls between accelerated and prolonged and has the smoothest progression toward marriage
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Rawlins Four major dialectics
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Interdependence/dependence
affection/instrumentality judgement/acceptance expressiveness/protectiveness |
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Developmental theories
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theories of relational chronology, or how relationships change over time
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outcome
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reward minus the cost
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comparison level
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what a person expects to get out of a particular relationship or situation
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Resource theory
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relationship partners exchange a variety of resources, including goods, love, info, money, services, and status.
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Equity theory
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concerned with fairness in relationships, based on propositions about people's desires to maximize their personal outcomes, be rewarded equitably for what they do, and minimize incidences or inequitable treatment.
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communal relationship
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someone gives a benefit based on the other person's need, rather that with an expectation of return
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behavioral motif
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a style of life and of "doing" friendship
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Social Network
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an individual's array close associates including friends and kin relations
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Network overlap
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the proportion of network members shared be the two friends
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Boundary Density
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of the cross links between members of both friends social networks
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cross-network contact
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the communications between each friend and the other friend's social network
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Rose and Asher's benefits that friendships provide to children
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1) validation and ego support
2)emotional security 3) self-disclosure 4)help and guidance 5) reliable allies 6) companionship and stimulation |
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Cross sex vs same sex friendships in men and women
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Men report closer friendships with cross sex and women report closer friendships with same sex
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social support
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responsiveness to and fulfillment of another person's needs, involving thing as affection, validation, trust and emotional or material resources
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Wortman and Dunkel-schetter's supportive behaviors
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1) expressing positive emotion
2) supporting feelings or beliefs 3) encouraging expression of emotions 4) offering information or advice 5)giving material aid 6)helping with a particular task 7)letting someone know he or she is part of a supportive group |
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sensitive interaction system theory
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which takes into account the individual characteristics of the support seeker and support provider, the relationship between the two people, and the nature of a give situation or problem when assessing short-term and long-term outcomes
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perceived support
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ask people who have supposedly been provided with support whether they, in fact, FEEL supported
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Gurung and Sarason's supportive influencing behaviors
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Personal characteristics
relationship factors aspects of the situation |
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Personal Characterstics
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i.e. depression, loneliness
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Relationship factors
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i.e. closeness, commitment
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aspects of the situation
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i.e. discussion of a conflict, a novel stressful situation
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Social support can
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1) prevent relationship deterioration from stress
2) alleviate depression 3) reduce conflict intensity 4) promote intimacy, trust, and positive constructuals of the partner |
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Steps in perception checking, after consent
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1) Sensory description
2) give two or more interpretations 3) Invite feedback |
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Perception checking step 1: Sensory description
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Describe what you sense. Guarantees both parties are on the same page
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Perception checking step 2: Give two or more interpretations
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Ask questions to find out the meaning behind the behavior or comment
1) "Did you mean.." 2) "Or did you mean..." 3) "Or something else?" |
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Perception checking step 3: Invite Feedback
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Invite feedback from the other person after you have asked questions to find out meaning
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Feeling regulation intervention
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1) Come to an agreement: i.e. "When i', upset would it be okay to take a 20 min break to calm down?"
2) The reengage. Either solve the problem or take another break. |
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Behavior intervention
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Change behavioral response.
What are constant specific behaviors that others will recognize as respectful , time, etc |
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emotional immaturity
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Extent to which you react to emotions
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Maslow's hierarchy of needs
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5) self actualization - Becoming true self, who we actually are.
4) self-esteem - Behaviors that are motivated by need to achieve 3) Belonging - How do I fit into the world? 2) Safety - People will often sacrifice safety for physical needs 1) Physical needs - Food, water, sleep, sex(babies) |
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Maslow's hierarchy of needs: Self actualization
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Becoming one's true self.
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Maslow's hierarchy of needs: Self-esteem
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Behaviors that are motivated by need to acheive
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Maslow's hierarchy of needs: Belonging
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How do I fit into the world?
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Maslow's hierarchy of needs: Safety
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Safe environment. People will often sacrifice safety for physical needs. i.e. unsafe neighborhoods.
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Maslow's hierarchy of needs: Physical needs
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food, water, sleep, sex (babies)
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Schemas of parent/child relationship
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1) Others as trust worthy - will they be there when I need them?
2) Value of self - Am I lovable? 3) Model of self-efficacy/relationships - ability to relate |
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Adult attachment styles
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1) secure
2) Pre-occupied 3) dismissive/avoidant 4) fearful/avoidant |
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Adult attachment styles: Secure
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Self and others +
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Adult attachment styles: Pre-occupied
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Self - , Others +
Obsess about relationships, feels worthless and tries extra hard to be equal in a relationship Needy and clingy Elizabeth |
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Adult attachment styles: Dismissive/avoidant
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self + others -
"I'm a good person and I don't need any one" serial daters |
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Adult attachment styles: Fearful/avoidant
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Self - others -
Social hermits Feel they don't deserve it |