The Conceptual And Higher-Level Meta-Programs Of The Volitional Meta-Programs Cognitive/willing 26-28

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#26. Value buying sort:

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Cost/convenience/quality/time

Concept: When purchasing, what do you sort for in the process? Imagine a diamond with each of the four choices on a corner. Put a check mark on diamond line for what you most want. This meta-program refers to how we think, perceive, pay attention, and sort for when it comes to purchasing and deciding to purchase. People differ in preferring to focus on cost, convenience, quality, and time in different ways.

Elicitation:
• What do you primarily concern yourself with when you consider making a purchase-the price, convenience, time, quality, or some combination of these?

• Put a mark on the diagram at the place that represents where you feel that you put most of your concern in the double-triangle. This foregrounds awareness of the trade-offs between the values.

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#27. Responsibility sort:

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Overresponsible/underresponsible

underresponsible-responsible-overresponsibIe

Concept: A higher meta-program that addresses the concept of personal power-that is, the ability to respond and to be held accountable by others.

Underresponsible: Responds with lack of acceptance of owning or wanting responsibility. Blame, entitlement, dependency, victimhood, irresponsibility.

Responsible: Appropriately balancing ownership of responses for self and to others.

Overresponsible: Takes on too much ownership, leading to care-taking, intrusion, overinvolvement, stress.

Elicitation:
• When you think about having and owning responsibility for something in a work situation or personal relationship, what thoughts and emotions occur to you?

• Has someone ever held you responsible for something that went wrong that felt very negative to you?

• What positive experiences can you remember about someone holding you responsible for something and/or validating you as "response-able"?

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#28. People-convincer sort:

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Distrusting/trusting

distrusting-trusting; paranoid-naive

Concept: This meta-program relates to how we feel "convinced" in general and how we sort for and respond to relating to others.

Distrusting, paranoid: Immediately, automatically, and pervasively assume the worst of others, distrust: leads to jealousy, envy, guardedness, defensiveness, shallow relationships.

Trusting, naive: Immediately responds to others assuming trust, similarity, connections: leads to openness, warmth, friendliness, outgoing, can lead to being duped easily.

Elicitation:
• When you think about meeting someone new, do you immediately have a sense of trust and openness to the person, or thoughts and feelings of distrust, doubt, questions, jealousy, or insecurity?

• How do you typically choose to relate to a person, or a group of people, before you know them very well? Do you do so with trust or with caution?

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The conceptual and higher-level meta-programs of The volitional meta-programs Cognitive/Willing 26-28

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The conceptual and higher-level meta-programs

Not all meta-programs occur at the first meta-level above content. As we have multiple levels of meta-states, we have multiple levels of meta-programs. We can have meta-programs about meta-programs. These higher meta-programs relate to how we relate to ideas and concepts and so are conceptual meta- programs.

The volitional meta-programs have to do with another focus of the attention of conciousness—conation. This term refers to choosing, willing, and attending our intending. We commonly speak about such in terms of our “will”—what we intend to think, perceive, feel, and do, and what we then follow up with attention.