Spch 322 Final

Front 1

self disclosure

Back 1

deliberate, significant, not known

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Stages of relationship development (Knapp's staircase)

Back 2

initializing, experimenting, intensifying, integrating, bonding, differentiating, circumscribing, stagnating, avoiding, termination

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initiating

Back 3

greeting, glance, bumping into

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experimenting

Back 4

still not sure about our relationship

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intensifying

Back 5

second date/meeting

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integrating

Back 6

including him or her in your life

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bonding

Back 7

relationship goes public

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differentiating

Back 8

"I need my space"

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circumscribing

Back 9

intentional space, effort

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stagnating

Back 10

"rut", things never change

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avoiding

Back 11

staying away emotionally

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terminating

Back 12

divorce, not seeing each other

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reciporcity

Back 13

a reason for self disclosure, in general, give back because you have been given to

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3 dialectical tensions

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autonomy vs. connection, oppenness vs. privacy, predictab ility vs. novelty

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5 ways to manage dialectical tensions

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denial (psychological avoidance), alteration, balance, integration, reaffirmation

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autonomy vs. connection

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autonomy = make your own decisions
connection = need someone to help you with your decision making

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openness vs. privacy

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openness = you reveal a lot of info.
privacy = keep things to yourself

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predictability vs. novelty

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predictability = things become routine and boring
novelty = new events are happening

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spirals

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someone always seems to pick it up a notch or drop it down a notch (escalatory and de-escalatory spirals)

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3 types of confirming responses

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recognition, acknowledgement, endorsement

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recognition

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most basic, recognizing that someone is in the room

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acknowledgement

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"How are you doing?"

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endorsement

Back 23

agree with or on the same page

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9 disconfirming responses

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verbal abuse, generalized complaining, impervious response, interrupting, irrelevant response, judgemental response, impersonal response, ambiguous response, incongruous response

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impervious response

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says something and you act as if you didn't hear it

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irrelevant response

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"off the wall" response

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judgemental response

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"changing the subject"

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incongruous response

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"not paying attention"

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6 Gibb's categories

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Evaluation vs. description, control vs. problem, strategy vs. spontaneity, neutrality vs. empathy, superiority vs. equality, certainty vs. provisional

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Attraction (5 types)

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attracted to people similair to us (complementary), reciprocal attraction, competence, disclosure/vulnerability, proximity

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Defensiveness - 3 typical responses

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attack, distort the information, avoid

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verbal aggression

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person avoids facing unpleasent information by verbally attacking the confronting face

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compensation

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a person stresses strength in one area to camouflage a shortcoming in some other area

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rationalization

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logical but untrue explanations maintain a unrealistic desired or presenting self image

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regression

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a person avoids assuming responsibility by prentending that she is unable to do something instead of admitting to being simply unwilling

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sarcasm

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individual reacts a percekived threat to his or her presenting self by attacking the critic with contemptuous, often ironical remarks

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apathy

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a person avoids admitting emotional pain by pretending not to care about an event

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physical avoidance

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the person steers clear of people who attack a presenting self to avoid dissonance

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displacement

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a person vents hostile or aggressive feelings on a target that cannot strike back, instead of on the true target