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Love |
a strong affection for one another arising out of kinship or personal ties; attraction based on sexual desire; and affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests |
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Attachment Theory |
theory postulating that the way in which infants form attachments early in life affects relationships throughout later life. secure, anxious-ambivalent, and avoidant attachments. |
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Biochemical perspectives of love |
suggests humans are attracted to certain types of people, at which point the brain releases natural chemicals that give us a "rush" we experience as sexual attraction. |
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sternbergs triangular theory of love |
sees love as having three elements: intimacy, passion, and commitment |
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john lees styles of love |
categorization of 6 types of love that describe how couples are attracted to one another. eros (passionate), storge ( mutual, respect), pragma (practical, sensible), ludus (playful, carefree), agape (kind, patient), mania (obsessive, intense) |
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reiss' wheel theory of love |
developmental theory that shows relationships moving from the establishment of rapport, to self-revelation, mutual dependance, and finally, need fulfillment. |
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gender differences in love |
men are more likely to be looking for a committed relationship. twice as many men than women says they've been in love many times. men fall in love quicker. men are more ludic (carefree) and women are more storge (comfortable) and pragma (rational). women are more cautious while looking for a partner. |
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Secure attachments |
infants feel safe. adults find it easy to get close to others. usually comfortable depending on others and vice versa. dont worry about abandonment. |
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anxious-ambivalent attachments |
infants are nervous when parent leaves and can show rejection when they return. adults think people dont want to get as close to them as they do to that person. think they scare people away. worry partner doesnt actually love them. gets close to partner quickly and before partner does. |
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avoidant attachments |
infants show little attachment to primary parent. adults arent comfortable being close to people. difficult to trust others and would rather not depend on them. nervous because other people want them to be more intimate than theyre comfortable being. |
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sociobiology theory |
evolutionary theory that all humans have an instinctive impulse to pass on their genetic material. |
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unrequited love |
one persons feelings are not reciprocated by the other person in the relationship. |
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causes of jealousy |
partner's behavior. insecurity. feelings of mistrust. low self-esteem. anxiety. |
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types of jealousy |
reactive=rational anxious=irrational possesive |
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stalking |
engaging in unwanted, continuous contact. ex:unwanted phone calls, texts, letters, following/spying, showing up w/out reason, waiting fro victim, leaving unwanted items, posting info/rumors about victim. |
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difference between sex and gender |
sex=biological gender=socaily and culturally constructed differences between male and female |
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sexual scripts |
norms or rules regarding sexual behavior. learned from our culture, including our parents, friends, media, and dominant religion, also through the interpersonal communication between us and our partner and our personal views of sex based on feelings, fantasies, and desires. |
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mens sexual scripts |
his looks are relatively important but his status is enhance if hes w beautiful women. man always wants ex and is ready for it. man is in charge.all physical contact leads to sex. man cannot easily stop himself once hes turned on. sex is intercourse. sexual intercourse always leads to orgasm. |
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womens sexual scripts |
women should make themselves attractive to men to get their attention, but not too attractive. womens genitals are mysterious. women shouldnt know too much about sex or be too experienced. good girls dont plan to have sex and dont initiate it. women shouldnt talk about sex. a man should know how to please a woman. sexual intercourse should lead to orgasm. |
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masters and johnsons phases of sexual response cycle |
did sexual studies in lab. 4 stages of sexual response cycle= desire, excitement, orgasm, resolution |
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sexual satisfaction and overall relationship satisfaction |
sexual relationships are good for ones overall relationship but arent necessary to be good. |
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communication |
is a transaction, a process, includes co-construction of meanings, and uses symbols. |
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sapir whorf hypothesis |
concept that language shapes our culture and at the same time, culture shapes out language. |
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cultural differences in communication |
1)individualistic vs. collective individualistic= emphasis on individual making and getting goal. (usa) collective=people work together to survive. (asia, africa) 2)high vs. low context high context= collectivistic. have to establish trust before doing business. lots of indirect/nonverbal communication 3)masculine vs. feminine masculine=emphasis on achievement, assertiveness and material success. mexico, etc. feminine=focus on well being. more likely to compromise/negotiate. norway, sweden. 4)centralized vs. decentralized. centralized=power tends to be w fewer people. dictator/other. india, n. korea decentralized=masses have more of a voice and can participate in power/gov't. denmark. 5)high vs. low ambiguity(tolerance for uncertainty) high ambiguity=can tolerate high levels of differences/the unknown low ambiguity=low tolerance for differences. everything is black and white. strict rules. 6)short-term vs. long term time direction short term=emphasis on social status. quick rewards. spend more than save. nigeria. long-term=focus on future/saving and perseverance. delay gratification. asains. |
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elements of communication process |
sender= person who initiates message. conveys it. receiver= person to whom the message is conveyed. target. message= the info/meaning being transmitted. channel= how message is being conveyed. phone/face to face/letter. noise= internal/external things that interfere with message. emotions/distractions. context= environment in which communication is taking place. private vs. public places. |
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non-verbal |
80% of communication is non-verbal |
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5 stages of listening process |
1) receive/hear message 2) understand, decode, and grasp message 3) remember/retain message 4) evaluate message/ask questions. 5) respond |
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improving verbal communication |
describe your own feelings instead of evaluating the behavior of others. solve problems rather than controlling others. be genuine rather than manipulative. empathize rather than stay detached. be flexible rather than rigid. present yourself as equal rather than superior. |
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types of conflict |
pseudoconflict= falsely perceiving your partner is interfering with your goals or has incompatible goals. content conflict= individuals disagree about info. value conflict= results from differing opinions of subjects that relate to personal values and issues of right or wrong. ego conflict= individuals believe they must win at all costs to save face |
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styles of conflict |
avoiding= removing yourself from situation. accommodating = satisfy partners needs at expensive of own goals. competing= attempt to meet own goals without regard for partners goals. compromising= both partners give up part of what they want to achieve partial satisfaction in meeting goals. collaborating= attempts to satisfy both our needs and needs of our partner. |
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gottmans 4 horsemen of the apocalypse |
what to avoid when communicating 1) criticism= personal attack 2) contempt= treating others w disrespect 3) defensiveness= when feeling unjustly accused. sees self as victim. 4)stonewalling= withdraws from interaction. |
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6 sources of power |
1) coercive= ability to achieve will by force. 2) reward= ability to offer benefit to achieve goal 3) expert= persons special knowledge/ability 4) informational= info someone uses to persuade someone 5) referent= identification of less dominant person towards more dominant person 6) legitimate= based on persons claim of authority or the right to exercise his or her will |
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blood & wolfes resource theory |
suggests the spouse with the more prestigious or higher-paying job can have more power in the relationship. |
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principle of least interest |
partner w the least interest in the relationship has the most power. |
