Psych 221 - Ch. 9 Love & Sexuality

Front 1

Define dating script.
Describe types of scripts. p 243

Back 1

Dating script - the cognitive model that guides dating interactions.
Proactive: male - initiating date, decide where to go, control public domain(drive car, open door), initiate sex. contact.
Reactive script: (female) focus on private domain(dressing decisions, grooming), respond to dates gestures in public domain, respond to sexual initiative.

Front 2

What is Sternbergs theory of love? p 245

Back 2

3 types of love:
1. Passion - physical attraction and sexual desire
2. Intimacy - feeling of closeness and emotional attachment. Mutual understanding and support, communication about issues not discussed with anyone else.
3. Commitment - pledge to love over long run. Sustains over long term

Front 3

State Sternbergs 7 different forms of love: p 246

Back 3

Like: ONLY intimacy
Infatuation: ONLY passion
Empty love: ONLY commitment
Romantic love: Passion + Intimacy
Compassionate love: Intimacy + Commitment
Fatuous (silly/foolish) love: Passion + commitment (think Britney Spears Las Vegas wedding)
Consummate love: Passion, Intimacy + Commitment

Front 4

Who is Bradford Brown? Why is he notable? p 249

Back 4

Brown proposed model of adolescent love that recognizes importance of peers and friends.
4 phases: Initiation - early adol. tentative exploration of romantic interests, superficial and brief, fraught with anxiety and fear, lasts days
Status: Adol. gain confidence in interacting skills and form first romantic relationships. Highly aware of peer/friend evaluations. Status considered. Date from similar level in hierarchy.
Affection: Adol. come to know each other better and express deeper feelings, engage in more extensive sexual activity. Last several months. Peers become less important.
Bonding: when relationship becomes more enduring and serious and partners begin to discuss possibility of lifelong commitment. Typically emerging adulthood. Friends and peers role continues to reced.

Front 5

Romantic relationship development

Back 5

Early and late Adolescent view: recreation, intimacy, then status
College students: intimacy, companionship, recreation, then status much lower.
Vs. friendship (positives): involve more intense feelings of anxiety and discomfort. More likely to involve sexual activity. Valued for feeling of being cared for by romantic partner
(negatives) include romantic relationship constrains social freedom, makes emotionally vulnerable, more likely to involve conflict than friendships

Front 6

What are the two basic types of adolescent love?

Back 6

Infatuation - taking passion alone as the feeling of "falling in love" intensity of feeling and sexual desire

Romantic love - combination of passion and intimacy. heightened emotions and sexual desire along with spending time together, come to know each other and share feelings with no one else.
Worldwide: passion is a universal characteristic, however not all adoles. are able to act on these feelings.

Front 7

What are roles of romantic partners? p 248

Back 7

Romantic parners:
1. try to maintain regular proximity to each other
2. seek each other out for comfort and protection in crisis
3. use each other for "secure base" (psychological security) to face life's challenges
4. Extended separation is a source of distress and loss of person deeply painful

Front 8

What is the impact of adolescent break ups related to the personal fable?

Back 8

egocentrism contributes to intensity of unhappiness after break up. Egocentrisms personal fable contribute's to person;s feelings that nn o one has ever experienced as deeply the pain and the pain will never end. Ex. "My life is over and there will never be anything to smile about again"

Front 9

Who performed the best college study of breakups?

Back 9

HIll, Rubin and Peplan, 1979. Indicated factors related to likelihood of break up: lower intimacy and love levels, less likely to have similar characteristics such as age, SAT scores, physical attractiveness. Also less balanced in commitment level from each person.
Couples typically did not agree on reason for break up.
Rejected men took breakup harder.
Sprecher (1994) reasons for breakup
Self - independence and boredom
Partner - partner wanted independence, partner bored, partner interested in someone else
couple interaction - different interests, communication problems, conflicts re: sex, marriage or different backgrounds.

Front 10

Define sexuality p 254

Back 10

includes both biological sexual development and sexual values, beliefs, thoughts, feelings relationships and behavior

Front 11

What are the cultural approaches to sexuality?

Back 11

Restrictive
Semi restricitve
Permissive

Front 12

Describe the first cultural approach.

Back 12

Restrictive culture: strong prohibitions before marriage. Strict separation between boys andgirls from childhoood thru adol. E. Africa and Brazil, live in separate lives. Social norms in Asia dissaporve strongly of premarital sex. Arab countries have legal sanctionsAlgeria S.A. Typically more restricive for girls than boys.

Front 13

Describe semi-restrictive cultural approach.

Back 13

Semi-restrictive approach: formal prohibitions are not strongly enforced and easily evaded.Aduilts ignore as long as discretion is used.If pregnancy occurs, often forced to marry. Samoans are example of this.
Semi restrictive applies to Americans as a whole.

Front 14

Describe permissive cultures

Back 14

Permissive cultures encourage and expect adolescent sexual activity. Trobrianders in South Pacific encourage sex play to develop into sexual activity as adol. grows older. (now, less permissive as a result of globalization and religion.)

Front 15

Define sexual scripts

Back 15

Cognitive frameworks, different for males and females, for understanding how sexual experience is supposed to proceed and how sexual experience is supposed to be interpreted. Boys expected to "make the moves" Girls expected to "set the limits"