Psych 160 - 4

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• Relational self

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o Beliefs, feelings and expectations about our selves that derive from our relationships w/ sig others in our lives

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o Self-expansion account of relationships

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• We enter into relationships to create a more complete self

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o Transactive memory

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• Knowledge dat people in relationships have about their partner’s encoding, storage and retrieval of info

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• Attachment theory

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o A theory about how our early attachments w/ our parents shape our relationships for the remainder of our lives

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• Secure attachment style

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o Feel secure in rel
o Comfortable w/ intimacy
o Desire to be close w/ others during times of threat/uncertainty

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• Avoidant attachment style

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o feel insecure in rel
o prone to exhibit compulsive self-reliance
o prefer distance from others
o dismissive n detached in times of threat/uncertainty

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• anxious attachment style

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o feel insecure in rel
o compulsively seek closeness
o express continual worries bout rel
o excessive attempts to get closer in times of threat/uncertainty

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• Relational Models Theory by Alan Fiske

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o There are 4 different kinds of relationships, each char by highly distinct ways of defining the self and others, allocating resources and work, making moral judgments, and punishing transgressions

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• Communal Sharing Relationship

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o Based on belief dat membership in group transcends concerns of the individual
• Ex. Family
• Extremely close friends

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• Authority Ranking Relationship

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o Based on hierarchy, status and a linear ordering of peeps within a group
• Ex. Military
• Modern corporations

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• Equality Matching Relationship

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o Based on equality, reciprocity and balance
• Roommates
• Members of a carpool
• Most friendships

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• Market Pricing Relationship

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o Based on a sense of proportion, trade and equity in which peeps are concerned w/ ensuring that their inputs to a rel correspond to what they get out of the rel
• Rel btwn boss and employee
• Investor and corporation
• In this relationship, rewards are proportionate to one’s contributions

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• Exchange relationships

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o Short term
o No responsibility towards one another
o Based on equity n reciprocity
o Ex: strangers, new acquaintances, student working for a professor

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• Communal relationships

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o Long-term
o Based on principle of need
• Don’t expect anything in return
• Ex: family members, close friends

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• Power

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o Ability to control one’s outcomes and those of others
o Freedom to act

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• Status

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o Outcome of an evaluaton of attributes that produces differences in respect and prominence>det a person’s power in a group

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• Authority

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o Power that derives from institutionalized roles or arrangements

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• Dominance

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o Behavior that has the demonstration of power as its goal

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o social dominance orientation

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• the desire to see one’s own group dominate other groups
• social dominance is correlated w/ increased stereotyping and prejudice

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• Robert Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love

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o 3 major components are intimacy, passion, and commitment, which can be combined in diff ways
Combinations of intimacy, passion, and commitment
Nonlove is the absence of all three of Sternberg's components of love.
Liking/friendship in this case is not used in a trivial sense. Sternberg says that this intimate liking characterizes true friendships, in which a person feels a bondedness, a warmth, and a closeness with another but not intense passion or long-term commitment.
Infatuated love is often what is felt as "love at first sight". But without the intimacy and the commitment components of love, infatuated love may disappear suddenly.
Empty love: Sometimes, a stronger love deteriorates into empty love, in which the commitment remains, but the intimacy and passion have died. In cultures in which arranged marriages are common, relationships often begin as empty love and develop into one of the other forms with the passing of time.[citation needed]
Romantic love: Romantic lovers are bonded emotionally through intimacy and physically through passionate arousal.
Companionate love is an intimate, non-passionate type of love that is stronger than friendship because of the element of long-term commitment. Sexual or physical desire is not an element of companionate love. This type of love is often found in marriages in which the passion has gone out of the relationship but a deep affection and commitment remain. The love ideally shared between family members is a form of companionate love, as is the love between close friends who have a platonic but strong friendship.
Fatuous love can be exemplified by a whirlwind courtship and marriage in which a commitment is motivated largely by passion, without the stabilizing influence of intimacy.
Consummate love is the complete form of love, representing an ideal relationship toward which people strive. Of the seven varieties of love, consummate love is theorized to be that love associated with the “perfect couple”. According to Sternberg, such couples will continue to have great sex fifteen years or more into the relationship, they can not imagine themselves happy over the long term with anyone else, they weather their few storms gracefully, and each delight in the relationship with one other.[1] However, Sternberg cautions that maintaining a consummate love may be even harder than achieving it. He stresses the importance of translating the components of love into action. "Without expression," he warns, "even the greatest of loves can die" (1987, p.341). Thus, consummate love may not be permanent. If passion is lost over time, it may change into companionate love.

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• investment model of interpersonal relationships

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o 3 things that increase commitment
• rewards
• alternatives
• investments