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41 Cards in this Set
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Strength
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-Esteem
-Control -"What I Have" -Prince of Peac -Dorothy |
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Weakness
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-Humility
-Withdrawal -"What I Lack" -Lamb of God -Scarecrow |
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Assertion
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-Courage
-Aggression -"What I Want" -Lion of Judah -Tin Man |
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Love
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-Caring
-Dependency -"What you Need" -Good Shepherd -Lion |
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Counseling
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-intervention that sizes up factors disrupting a person's life and offers growth strategies that move a person foward toward resolution
-you listen with the third ear (a form of hearing that requires discernment in psychological and spiritual causes and effects) |
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Coaching
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responds to a counselee's need to feel emotionally significant and understood; pep talk, praying with them, offer an encouraging word
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Clarification
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-transitition
-boundaries -listening -relationship-building |
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Formulation
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-inquiry
-listening -accurate conception of client's situation |
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Intervention
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-move actively toward gols
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Termination
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-transition back to "normal" pastoral relationship
-never the same -special area in office for counseling |
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Pleaser
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-Love
-Pleasing and Placating -Assertion |
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Storyteller
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-Love
-Theatrical to Seductive -Humility and Serenity |
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Arguer
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-Assertion
-Blaming & Attacking -Caring and Trusting |
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Rule Breaker
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-Assertion
-Deceitful & Exploitive -Caring and Trusting |
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Worrier
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-Weakness
-Helpless & Passive -Assertion and Confidence |
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Loner
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-Weakness
-Detached & Indifferent -Involvement & Caring |
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Boaster
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-Strength
-Self-absorbed & entitled -Humility & Caring |
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Controller
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-Strength
-Righteous & Rule-bound -Humility & Playfulness |
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Personality Patterns
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“A personality pattern … is a set of manipulative behaviors stemming from unconscious assumptions that directly affect how you perceive, think, feel and act.”
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Brief Situational Support
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-1-3 sessions
-strengthening counselees in life situations that have temporarily thrown them of course -lube, oil change, tire rotation |
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Short-Term Counseling
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-4-9 sessions
-more time to explore presenting problem -mobilization of a treatment plan -new brakes, new water pump |
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Long-Term Pastoral Psychotherapy
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-10 sessions to a year
-thorough integration of Christian personality theory -new engine |
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Matthew 9:36
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"When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd"
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C.S Lewis
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"Faith... is the art of holding onto things your reason has once accepted, in spite of your changing moods. For moods will change, whatever view your reason takes. I know that by experience. Now that I am a Christian, I do have moods in which the whole thing looks very improbable: but when I was an atheist, I had moods in which Christianity looked terribly probable. "This rebellion of your moods against your real self is going to come anyway. That is why Faith is such a necessary virtue: unless you teach your moods 'where they get off,' you can never be either a sound Christian or even a sound atheist, but just a creature dithering to and fro, with its beliefs really dependent on the weather and the state of its digestion.“
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Myth #1
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Only for crazy people
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Myth #2
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Someone who doesn't know me can't really help me
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Myth #3
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Pastoral Counselor's can read people's minds
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Myth #4
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Pastoral Counselors can fix all your problems
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Myth #5
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A Pastor who counsels a couple will take sides
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Myth #6
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Pastor-counselors don't say anything, they just listen
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Myth #7
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Pastoral Counseling takes forever
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Myth #8
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Everyone will know I am seeing the pastor as my counselor
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Mth #9
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Pastoral couseling will cost me
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Myth #10
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Support groups are "touchy-feely" and not real world
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Myth #11
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You have to be near divorce to go to couple's counseling with your pastor
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Myth #12
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Marital problems can only be worked on as a couple
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Myth #13
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My spouse is the one who needs counseling. Not me!
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Myth #14
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I'm afraid of becoming one of the pastor's sermon illustrations
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Myth #15
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Seeking pastoral counseling is a sign of weakness
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2 key dimensions of interpersonal dynamics
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Affiliation: Love/Assertion polarity
Power: Strength/Weakness polarity |
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Third Ear
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a form of hearing that requires discernment in psychological and spiritual causes and effects
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