Marriages And Families #2

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love

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a deep and vital emotion that satisfies certain needs, combined with caring and acceptance of the beloved and resulting in an intimate relationship

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emotion

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a strong feeling arising without conscious mental/rational effort, which motivates an individual to behave a certain way

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legitimate needs

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"being needs" ongoing, present social and emotional-support needs

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illegitimate needs

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"deficiency needs" which arise from feelings of self-doubt. they can never be fully met.

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martyr

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someone who does all they can for other's while ignoring their own legitimate needs

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manipulation

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seeking to control the feelings, attitudes, and behavior of your partner.

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limerence

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reviewing EVERY second of the last time you saw him/her. Obsessing over the person and having thoughts of them constantly.

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symbiotic relationship

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each of the partners expects the other to provide a sense of meaning/purpose to the relationship

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intimacy

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an interpersonal process that involves the expression and sharing of emotions, communications of personal feelings and information, development of sharing affection, support and feeling closely connected with another person

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commitment

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the willingness to work through problems and conflicts opposed to calling it quits

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Triangular theory of love

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1) Intimacy
2) Passion
3) Commitment

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consummate love

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"complete" love. contains all 3 factors.

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Eros

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intense emotional attachment and powerful sexual feelings. Love at first sight.

(Love Style)

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Storage

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affectionate, companionate style of love. Focuses on deepening mutual commitment, respect, and friendship over time. Sexual intimacy comes as developing understanding increases.

(Love Style)

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Pragma

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this emphasizes the practical element in human relationship, particularly marriage. It provides a base for both economic and emotional security.

(Love Style)

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Agape

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altruistic love: emphasizes nurturing the other, with little desire for anything in return.

(Love Style)

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Ludus

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Love is playful/fun. Having many partners, and sexual partners are for recreation.

(Love Styles)

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Mania

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Obsession/craze.

(Love Styles)

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3 basic styles of attachment

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1) Secure
2) Insecure
3) Avoidant

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Rapport

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rests on mutual trust/respect. when similar values and interests are realized between the couple, rapport increases.

(Wheel of Love)

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Self-revelation

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"self disclosure", gradually sharing intimate information.

(Wheel of Love)

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Mutual Dependency

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The two people desire to spend more time together and develop interdependence. "M-frame relationship".

(Wheel of Love)

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Personality and Fulfillment

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Relationship develops and personality needs are satisfied which will now increase rapport, and restart the cycle of love.

(Wheel of Love)

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narcism

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an exaggerated sense of self-importance. Overly concerned about self-image and how they appear to others.

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A-Frame relationship

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partners have strong couple identity but little sense of themselves as individuals

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H-Frame relationship

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partners stand alone. Not influenced by one another.

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M-Frame relationship

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interdependence: each has adequate sense of self-loving and deep emotion.

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Prerequisites to love

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1) Self Esteem/ Self Love
2) Emotional Interdependence
3) Acceptance/ empathy

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attachment theory

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during infancy and childhood, a young person develops a general style of attaching to others. Once it is established, she/he unconsciously applies that style to other relationships.

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institutional marriage

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based on dutiful adherence to the time-honored marriage premise, and the norm of permanence.

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Companionate marriage

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single-earner, breadwinner, homemaker marriage.

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Individualized marriage

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optional, spouse roles are flexible

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Pluralistic family

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postmodern family. Tolerance and diversity over a single family ideal.

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selection hypothesis

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many benefits associated with marriage are actually due to the personal characteristics of those who chose to marry.

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experience hypothesis

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something about the experience of being married itself causes the benefits of marriage

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Reasons for increased number of unmarried adults

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1) Demographic
2) Increased educational and economic opportunity for women
3) Technology
4) Cultural Changes

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hypergamy

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improving social/economic status by marrying up

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hypogamy

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decrease social/economic status by marrying down

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theory of complementary needs

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we are attached to partners whose needs compliment our own. "Opposites attract"