Study your flashcards anywhere!

Download the official Cram app for free >

  • Shuffle
    Toggle On
    Toggle Off
  • Alphabetize
    Toggle On
    Toggle Off
  • Front First
    Toggle On
    Toggle Off
  • Both Sides
    Toggle On
    Toggle Off
  • Read
    Toggle On
    Toggle Off

How to study your flashcards.

Right/Left arrow keys: Navigate between flashcards.right arrow keyleft arrow key

Up/Down arrow keys: Flip the card between the front and back.down keyup key

H key: Show hint (3rd side).h key

A key: Read text to speech.a key


Play button


Play button




Click to flip

30 Cards in this Set

  • Front
  • Back
why we marry: macro level
to raise family, companionship, satisfy emotional needs, social pressure to conform, physical attraction
why we marry: micro
economic levcels, social movement and wars, pressure to break free, demographic and legal factors
marriage contracts
very common amoung rich
marriage contracts: legality
such contracts are not alsays binding, states vary on interpretations, depends upon location of couple when cdontract called upon
marriage contracts: extreme cases
some contraacts cocer areas such as birth control, num of children, duties and chores, sex can be performed
utilitarian marriage types (based on convenience)
conflict-habituated, deviatalized marriage, passive congenial
conflict habituated
both fight, but no divorce
devitalized marriage
obligation takes place of joy
passive congenial
emphasized practicality
intrinsic marriage types ( based on inherent reward)
vital marriage, total marriage
viral marriage
lives closely intertwined
total marriage
total involvement in all spheres of each others lives
romantic marriage
lasting and passionate, can become to self-absorbed
rescue marriage
confort provided for paast unhappiness, provides forum for repllaying past traumas
compasionate marriage
reflects a core of friendship, may degenerate into a bro sis relationship
traditional marriage
clear division of role and responsibilities, thei children may be only thing in common
success and happiness in marriage: his and her marriage
men and women experience marriage differently, identity barganing, readjusting to eachother
success and happiness: marriage and health
marriage generally loead to a longer and happier life, however married women are found to be less healthy
success and happiness: happiness in marriage
men report less happiness with onset of mid age, for women in correlated with discontent with role expectations
recipe for happiness
partners must share positive attitudes and care for eachother, must see marriage as an enduring long term commitment, believe that providing emotional support is more important than love
warning signs of relationship problems
criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling
attacking someones personality or character rather that a specific behavior. often starts with complaining bad when it cecomes overriding focus of communication of won't let go of past transgressions
intention to insult and psychologically abuse partner, verbal and nonverbal messages. includes negative thoughts of partner, focal point of the relationship becomes abuse
both feel victimized bgy other and neither willing to take responsibiloity for setting things right, both feel inncoent, denying responsibility, making excuses
go from poor communication to shutting down, conveys a message fo disapproval distance and smugness. very upsetting for speaker expecially if male
good communication
ask for information, get inside the others head, use caring cmmunication, don't criticize the other, keep it honest, make it kind, be specific, become allies, expression appreciation, share your hopes, use nonverbal communication to express emotions
barriers to communication
not listening, not responding to the issue, blaming and arguing, using scapegoats, using coercion or contempt, using the silent treatment
self disclosure- benifits
esteem support, infromation support, instrumental support, motivational support
womens speech
talk is often an end in itself, effort to establoish equality, affirmative and supportive, emotional
mens speech
instrumentality, talk is a means to an end, control, conversation dominance, abstract terms