Love And Relationships

Front 1

For many years, anthropologists believed that romantic love, the ___ of another, was a recent phenomenon and existed only in Western Culture.

Back 1

idealization

Front 2

Evidence of romantic love has been found in nearly all cultures, although it is rarely accepted as a good reason for ___.

Back 2

marriage

Front 3

What is relatively new in Western culture is that our concept of romantic love includes the element of ___.

Back 3

sexual desire

Front 4

Recent work has shown that although friendship and romantic love share many characteristics, romantic lovers differ from friends in terms of their ___, ___, ___, and willingness to give the utmost when the other is in need.

Back 4

fascination (preoccupation with the other person), exclusiveness, sexual desire

Front 5

The feeling of romantic love initially includes physiological arousal, but a ___ is required to interpret the responses of love.

Back 5

cognitive component

Front 6

For many years, anthropologists believed that romantic love, the ___ of another, was a recent phenomenon and existed only in Western Culture.

Back 6

idealization

Front 7

Evidence of romantic love has been found in nearly all cultures, although it is rarely accepted as a good reason for ___.

Back 7

marriage

Front 8

What is relatively new in Western culture is that our concept of romantic love includes the element of ___.

Back 8

sexual desire

Front 9

Recent work has shown that although friendship and romantic love share many characteristics, romantic lovers differ from friends in terms of their ___, ___, ___, and willingness to give the utmost when the other is in need.

Back 9

fascination (preoccupation with the other person), exclusiveness, sexual desire

Front 10

The feeling of romantic love initially includes physiological arousal, but a ___ is required to interpret the responses of love.

Back 10

cognitive component

Front 11

Feelings of passion almost always decrease with time, and long-term happy relationships are based more on togetherness, trust, sharing, and affection, or what is called ___ love.

Back 11

companionate

Front 12

The ability to love another person requires ___ and ___.

Back 12

a positive self-concept; self-disclosure

Front 13

Love can be ___ and depend on another person's ability to satisfy our needs and desires, or it can be ___ and not dependent on the loved one meeting certain expectations and desires.

Back 13

conditional, unconditional

Front 14

___ is an emotional state that is aroused by a perceived threat to a valued relationship. It is more common in people who have low ___ and/or who are personally unhappy in their lives, or who put great value on things like ___.

Back 14

jealousy; self-esteem; popularity, wealth, fame, and physical attractiveness

Front 15

Hazen and Shaver have proposed that one's experiences in romantic relationships are related to his or her ___.

Back 15

attachment

Front 16

People with a ___ style have positive views of themselves and others and find it easy to form relationships, whereas individuals with anxious-ambivalent or ___ styles find it more difficult to form relationships.

Back 16

secure; avoidant

Front 17

Robert Sternberg has suggested that liking, loving, and all the other positive emotions we feel for other individuals can be understood by the combination of three components: intimacy, passion, and decision/commitment. According to this triangular theory, ___ is intimacy alone, without passion or commitment. ___ is liking plus feelings of passion without commitment, while ___ is intimacy and commitment without passion.

Back 17

liking; romantic love; companionate love; consummate love

Front 18

John Lee does not believe that there is only one type of love that should be viewed as true love. He proposes that there are many styles of loving. ___ is based on an ideal of physical perfection; ___ grows from friendship; ___ is rational and practical; ___ involves intense emotional dependency; ___ is self-centered; and ___ puts the interest of the loved person first.

Back 18

eros; storge; pragma; mania; ludus; agape

Front 19

According to Lee, the degree of happiness an individual feels in a loving relationship depends greatly on how well his or her love-style ___ that of the loved one.

Back 19

matches

Front 20

In order to maintain a relationship, a couple must substitute new shared activities for old ones as their lives change, and they also must develop skills to achieve greater ___, those feelings and experiences that promote closeness and bondedness.

Back 20

intimacy

Front 21

T/F: Romantic love is the basis for marriage in most cultures.

Back 21

false

Front 22

T/F: In Western culture, romantic love is separate from sexual desire.

Back 22

false

Front 23

T/F: In terms of attachment styles, the most common romantic pairing is a secure-secure matching.

Back 23

true

Front 24

T/F: The least common attachment style is the avoidant style.

Back 24

false

Front 25

T/F: People rate best friends and lovers similarly on characteristics such as acceptance, trust, respect, mutual assistance, and understanding.

Back 25

true

Front 26

T/F: According to Lee, love-styles are fixed and repetitive.

Back 26

false

Front 27

T/F: As a general rule, people are most attracted to opposites.

Back 27

false

Front 28

T/F: The decision and commitment to love another person without intimacy or passion is experienced as empty love, according to Sternberg.

Back 28

true

Front 29

T/F: On of the major predictors of marital success is the number of pleasurable activities the couple shares.

Back 29

true

Front 30

T/F: The ludus love-style is a strong negative predictor of relationship satisfaction

Back 30

true

Front 31

T/F: Feelings of romantic love are associated with the release of amphetamine-like chemicals in the brain.

Back 31

true

Front 32

T/F: Self-disclosure is always important in a relationship, but it is not necessary that both individuals self-disclose.

Back 32

false

Front 33

T/F: Men and women are most likely to become jealous if they perceive a partner to be sexually unfaithful.

Back 33

false (true for men only)

Front 34

T/F: Romantic love tends to be unconditional

Back 34

false

Front 35

T/F: Anthropologists have found that romantic love is an idealized notion that is found almost exclusively in industrialized cultures where emphasis is on the individual.

Back 35

false

Front 36

T/F: IN order for a couple to become more intimate, it is important for them to withhold their negative feelings about each other.

Back 36

false

Front 37

a selfless love-style that puts the interest of the loved person ahead of the lover's own, even if it means great sacrifice

Back 37

agapic love

Front 38

have negative attitudes about themselves, fear rejection, and desperately try to get close to their partners

Back 38

anxious-ambivalent attachment style

Front 39

have negative views of others and have difficulties with feelings of intimacy

Back 39

avoidant attachment style

Front 40

the combination of intimacy and commitment without passion; based on togetherness, trust, sharing, and affection

Back 40

companionate love

Front 41

a love based on the partner satisfying certain needs and desires; Maslow called it "deficiency love"

Back 41

conditional love

Front 42

a love found only in relationships that include intimacy, passion, and commitment

Back 42

consummate love

Front 43

commitment without intimacy or passion; often the first stage in arranged marriages

Back 43

empty love

Front 44

highly idealized love based on physical beauty; these type of lovers are inclined to feel "love at first sight," but it usually does not last long

Back 44

erotic love

Front 45

the love that results when commitment is made on the basis of passion without the experience of intimacy; leads to whirlwind romances that usually end when the passion starts to fade

Back 45

fatuous love

Front 46

a love that results when passion is felt in the absence of intimacy and commitment, where the lover is obsessed with the other person as an ideal; similar to what Lee calls erotic love

Back 46

infatuated love