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21 Cards in this Set
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developing intimate relationships
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Intimate relationships : They believe in themselves and the people are ound them, they're willing to give themselves, share their ideas, feelings and time and needs, and they accept what others want to give them
Postive Self Views -Learned at Childhood -Personal Identity is never the same Gender Roles -Learned at Childhood -If needs are met you will gain trust to those to those that take care of you Styles of Love -Learned at Childhood, from people that raise you. -Identity can change Less than ideal childhood relationships -Can change as your grow older you must have an open mind and be ready for change |
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Friendships
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Our first stable relationships are outside of the family
Stable Lasting Relationships -Learning how to trust, how to share and you should be starting to build a tolerance Friendships are based on -Companionship -Respect -Acceptance -Help -Trust -Loyalty -Mutuality -Reciprocity Like love, but no sexual drive, no inclusiveness Real Friends -You can be unhappy with eachother but there is always respect Accepting and Less Critical -then who you are going out with Friends help build socity |
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Love sex and commitment
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Closely related
-Love draws people together -Sex is providing pleasure, intensity, and passion -Commitment is reflecting responsibility, realiability, and faithfulness -As your relationship progresses love and commitment will be the enduring traits for survival. Passionate Love -Pleasure comes with pain can be intense -Passion vs Intimacy Passion will take over |
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Challenges in Relationships
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Honesty and Openess
-Allow relationships to grow -If you don't share thoughts, your relationship will end Unequal Commitment Unrealiable expectations Misinterpreting time apart Need to compete -Argument winning is no good Jealousy -Comes from insecurities -Some jealousy can turn into violence -Communication and high self esteem |
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Succesful Relationships
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Communication
-Always the key, you must communicate equally -Conflict of Resolution Ask and give support Love + Respect + Commitment + Communication = Successful Marriage |
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Unhealthy Relationships
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Extreme Examples
-Physical Abuse -Emotional Abuse -Codependency Lack of -Love -Respect -Little value on spending time together Communication Styles may be hurtful -Destructive -Criticizingly -Defensive -Withdrawful Negative -Physical and mental consequences -Weight gain or weight loss |
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Ending a Relationship
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Give it a chance
Be honest and don't set place blame Compassionate -Be considerative You need time Good time to heal Self renewal Gives chance to grow as an individual |
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Communication
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NON VERBAL COMMUNICATION
-Body language -Eye contact Self Disclosure Information you normally wouldn't share with anyone LISTENING TO YOUR PARTNER -You shouldn't judge -Time and Energy to really listen CONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK Conflict -Constructive, make use of this conflict -Clarifiying and don't assume -Fiding out what the problem was -Negotiating -Solidifying your agreement -Reviewing |
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Pairing and Singlehood
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Choose partner
-Similar to youself -Education -Attraction |
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Communication
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Nonverbal
-Body language -Eye contact Self Disclosure Information you normally wouldn't share with anyone Listen -No judging -Time and Energy Feedback -Constructive Conflict -Clarifiying and don't assume -Fiding out what the problem was -Determining how to get something out of this conflict -Negotiating -Solidifying your agreement -Reviewing |
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Cohabitation
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More common today than 20 years ago
Factors -More tolerant about premaritalsex -Increased avaliability in contraception -Marrying at an older age Advantages of Cohabitation -Providing autonomy -Fewer obligations -Don't have to meet social factors Disadvantages of Cohabitation -Legal problems and proection -Pressure |
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Gay and Lesbian Partnerships
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Intimacy, Passin, Secruity
-More equal, less focused on gender roles Societal hositility -Same sex marriages -More accepting as society progresses Problems Occur Two men might fail due to men being more inward with problems. |
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Staying Single
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Why?
-Divorce rates are high -Staying single is more accepted nowadays -Certain educational goals or career goals -Financial Independence -Greater varity of sexual partners -More freedom and choice in making life decisions Disadvantages -Economic hardship -Constant pressure from family to get married |
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Marriage
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95% of all americans will get married at some point in their life
-People marry today for personal and emotional reasons Reasonable Expectations -Acceptence -Good Communication -Conflict Resolution -Agreement on ethical/moral views Many Issues -Backround and personality qualities Nobody's Perfect -Adjustments must always be made -Marital roles are changing Commitment -Tolerate |
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Family Life
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Stages
1st Begins with Marriage 2nd Parenthood 3rd Birth of first child -Stressful -Transition for both people 4th Gender Roles 5th Marital Satasfaction will change |
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Deciding to become a parent
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Factors
-Physical health and age -Financial situation -Emotional readiness with partner -Educational, career and child care plans |
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Parenting Styles
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Authoritarian
-High Demand -Low Response Authoritative parenting -High Demand -High Responsiveness Permissive -High Response -Low Demand Uninvolved -Low Demand -Low response |
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Child Temperments
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Easy
-Content -Happy -Adapt well Difficult -Fussy -Fearful of situation -Easily upset Slow to warm up to -Slowly Adapt Matching parent style to child temperment is key. |
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Parenting wisdom
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You will make mistakes
No one is perfect Make sure you're fair and consistent Responsiveness and Demanding balance Let them be independent don't smother them in later stages |
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Single Parent Families
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28% children under 18 live with one parent
-Only 20% of single parent families are headed by the dad -7.5% of children under 18 live with grandparents -Low educational outcomes Healthy Step-Families -Takes Time -Share experiences together to get that sense of family |
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Coping with Stress and Crisis
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Commitment
Family routines or rituals -Brush teeth at this time etc Communication Appreciation for one another Spend time together Spiritual wellness Successful strategies, teach them how to cope with stress |
