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23 Cards in this Set
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Triangular Theory of Love
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Intimacy: warmth, support, etc.
Passion: arousal and desire Commitment: devoting oneself to a relationship |
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Types of Love shown by Triangle
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NONLOVE
LIking Infatuation Empty Love Romantic Love Companionate Love Fatuous Love Consumate Love |
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Nonlove
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no components are present
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Liking
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* intimacy is high
* passion is low *commitment is low *warm friendship, does not arouse |
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Infatuation
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strong passion
low intimacy commitment |
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Empty Love
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high in commitment
low in intimacy and passion burnt out relationship, stay together |
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romantic love
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high in intimacy and passion, low on commitment
spring break love affair |
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companionate love
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high in intimacy and commitment
low in passion long-term happy marriage |
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fatuous love
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high in passion and commitment, very low in intimacy
whirlwind romance, leads to marriage |
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consumate love
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equal in intimace, passion and commitment
what everyone seeks always changing, never quite perfect. |
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misattribution
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we can attribute our arousal to the wrong source
I.e. taking crush on roller coaster, fear leads to attraction for partner |
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excitation transfer
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a lot of arousal by one stimulus, a little by a second
we see #2 as the main source, which it is not |
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response facilitation
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your first response to a situation becomes your signature response
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Love vs. Like
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we like our friends
we love our partners thinking about them frequently leads to feelings of love when you think about somoen else too much, it weakens the love. |
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styles of loving
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eros
ludus storge mania agape pragma |
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eros
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erotic love love at first sight, physical in nature
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ludus
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uncommited and fickle, many partners at once
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storge
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seek genuine friendships that lead to commitment
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agape
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giving, altruistic, treats love as a duty
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pragma
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pracitcal and progmatic, logic governs
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Bartholomew's Four
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Secure: more trusting, same as attachment style
Preoccupied: needy and jealous, uneasy and vigilant toward threats Dismissing: self-reliant and uninterested in closeness Fearful: fear of rejection and mistrustful of others, maybe shy |
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Why doesn't romantic love last?
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fantasy fades
novelty disapprears arounsal fads |
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Love when you're older
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many couples don't see the delcine
the love we marry for is not the love that keeps us together |
