Hdf 360 Statement Of Principle

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The laws of nature and the laws of relationships follow systematic principles. By working with the laws, we get the outcomes we seek. A farmer who fails to provide wise and consistent attention to his crops is likely to harvest more weeds than grain.

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The Principle of Order: Behavior Has Predictable Consequences

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Elaboration: Our fundamental separateness as humans cannot be overcome without the effort to understand the feelings and unique experiences of those we care about. It is a fundamental act of hostility or indifference to fail to see or try to see the world from another person’s perspective.

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The Principle of Empathy: A Fundamental Act Of Caring Is Taking Time To Look At The World Through Another Person’s Eyes

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Elaboration: No one can make a person think, feel, and usually even act in ways contrary to that person’s choices. A person’s choices can be better understood by knowing the past but are not bounded or dictated by what has gone on before.

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The Principle of Agency: People Are Free To Make Choices

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Elaboration: Patterns of choices have a cumulative effect. Some choices are made more difficult because of a pattern of previous choices. The person who has often chosen anger as the reaction to differences of opinion my find that reaction becoming automatic.

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The Principle of Momentum: The Pattern of One’s Life Is Defined By The Accumulation Of Choices

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Elaboration: It is easy to suppose that good choices are always easy. That is not always true. Good usually entails some cost. For example, the willingness to stand up for principles may entail the loss of certain friendships.

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The Principle of Loss: Sometimes The Best Choice To Sustain And Affirm Life Requires Risk Or Sacrifice

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Elaboration: A sense of right and wrong is the accumulated wisdom of experience with life. The key is to put these moral concepts into action and monitor their application in terms of how they affect oneself and others.

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The Principle of Integrity: Acting Consistent With Internal Principles Of Right And Wrong And Out Of Compassion For All Life Builds Healthy Relationships

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Elaboration: Short of cryogenic freezing, humans do not hold still. Life cannot be captured in a shadow box. People move actively toward one set of goals or another. They key is to move briskly and wisely toward carefully chosen goals. To stop growing is to die.

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The Principle of Movement: Life Is Movement

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Elaboration: Healthy human beings fight to protect and preserve life. Healthy human beings flinch at the sight of suffering and waste. While decay is real, so also is the drive toward goodness, connection, and growth.

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The Principle of Goodness: There Is An Inclination In The Human Spirit Toward Life-Sustaining Behavior

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Elaboration: It is wise to make allowances for imperfection and untidiness in life and relationships. Expecting Hollywood endings in all life struggles sets a person up for disappointment.

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The Principle of Chaos: The World Is Not Always Tidy

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Elaboration: True and enduring change cannot be achieved through physical or psychological force. Individual perspectives have to be respected and problems addressed at times when those involved can listen, think and learn. We cannot impose growth.

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The Principle of Readiness For Change: Problems Are Best Solved When Family Members Are Mentally and Emotionally Ready to Grow and When Family Members Are Feeling Safe And Valued

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Elaboration: No one person has sufficient experience to know everything about a problem. No one person can see all points of view. That is why it is vital for us to learn from each other.

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The Principle of Discovery: There Are Always More Possibilities Than Our Personal Experiences Suggest

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Elaboration: When people turn from proving they are right to working toward joint possibilities, they often discover remarkable options. Our differences have important clues to guide our growth and discovery. When we work alone, we limit our reach.

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The Principle of Synergy: When We Act Together, We Discover Possibilities That None Of Us Would Discover Alone

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Elaboration: Under the sway of the self-esteem movement, many have determined to meet their own needs at all costs. The self becomes the standard of judgment. Yet generativity and integrity in life depend on the investments we make in other people and in relationships. When we live only for ourselves, we never discover satisfactions that come from service.

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The Principle of Legacy: Our Ultimate Well-Being Depends On Making An Investment In Others

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Elaboration: To ignore evil is to be unprepared for the challenges of life. Each of us can be forgiven for an occasional self-serving pursuit of personal goals. None of us is totally selfless. Some individuals, though, twisted by harmful conditions during their formative years, have made the choice to commit themselves to self-serving goals, destructive behavior, and indifference to human suffering. Although not inherently “evil,” children who are not treasured, nurtured, and loved can become inhumane. Even though individuals with this destructive personality are a distinct minority, their presence has to be acknowledged and understood.

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The Principle of Evil: There Is Potential For Evil in People